00:14:03 Lisa Brown: I’ve been thinking the same thing about starting a Youtube channel! 00:14:24 Renée Fishman: OH. That resonates. YouTube and IG for me — all the videos 00:14:24 cindy: I am 5000% there with you! 🤣 00:14:40 Elijah Selby (she/her): YouTube is at the top of my CREATE list! 00:15:36 Lori Clemmons: YouTube is on my list as well. We should have a YouTube support group! 00:15:53 Elijah Selby (she/her): Lori—Yes! Love! 00:16:06 Lisa Brown: Reacted to "YouTube is on my lis..." with 👍 00:16:28 Randa Sultan: just barely started... just landed home... and i do not have my feet into 2024 yet... 00:16:38 Christine Thomson: We also had Covid in the house! But I’ve been super-productive and intentional business-wise. 00:16:41 Cynthia McGrath: My 1st week has been lovely. 00:16:43 Emily Wright: It has been emotional with lots of transitions happening; and allowing myself to be in it and feel it with mindful awareness and grace 00:16:45 Colleen ONeill: The last quarter of 2023 was really rough, including Covid in our house & mom’s health concerns. 2024 has started stronger & I’m feeling more grounded and hopeful. 00:16:47 Mindy Quoidbach: Some wonderful highs and some not so highs. Feeling overall positive about 2024 00:16:53 Kim Church: Uneven. On some things I feel clear and supportive and others are just a mess! 00:17:06 Suzanne Culberg: First week has been gentle, starting slow. 00:17:07 Roos Vos: Mixed feelings, want to enjoy quiet time, but also feel that I have to continu working… 00:17:15 Sarah MacKay Lynch: First week has been somewhat “better” than I had anticipated. Expectations were LOW. And yet, I can feel that I need to MOVE much more and need to get out in our woods here. Lots of ocean walks. 00:17:16 Nat Mossayebi: I have lots of ideas bubbling and am feeling excited for this year! 00:17:18 nicoleoffenberg: Excited. About things to come. New adventures. 00:17:20 Cindy Palajac: Excited about new workshops and future. Busy week catching up after taking 2 weeks off over the holidays. 00:17:21 Jenni Gaines: Some ups and downs so far, but feeling hopeful about the new year. 00:17:36 Renée Fishman: not having a great start. still not done — barely started — with my year-end review. I don’t have much clarity haven’t taken action on some things I wanted to get done. and a lot of uncertainty around income and whether my current client will renew for this year 00:17:36 Elijah Selby (she/her): I’ve been sick and pushing myself so taking a long time to get back to 100%. I have feelings of cautious hopefulness…but I don’t want to set myself up with ‘THIS IS THE YEAR!” …I want to just be slow and steady... 00:17:41 Brenda: Dreading dealing with Mom and increasing issues 00:17:44 Lisa Brown: So far both everything has been fantastic because I haven’t done any work yet! 😂 I’ve done all sorts of domestic nesting projects, including setting up a spa-like home gym, which feels great! 00:17:47 Karen Tasto: Kids all just left for their own habitats so just starting to get organized but feel clear, motivated and on purpose. 00:17:48 Renée Fishman: not feeling great about the coming year. 00:17:50 Rose Corrick: I have a sense of newness for 2024. Many new things bubbling, along with dealing with an ongoing health issue. I can do both…heal AND live and coach and be an artist… 00:18:01 Randa Sultan: I think i'm a bit blah about it being a "new year" when it really is just another day...? 00:18:01 Linda Kaun: Getting settled into the new year- seeing how I can be more intentional day to day. Happy for what lies ahead. I feel like it will be a good year. 00:18:06 Staci Page: I’ve been really up and down! Actively confronting fears with releasing my program publicly - finally with the help of fellow Embodyer’s - especially Mindy! 🙂 00:18:19 Lisa Brown: Reacted to "I’ve been sick and p..." with 💗 00:18:37 Frances Darnell: This first week has been about settling back into life, exploring visions for the year ahead, feeling hopeful and also feeling like the time is now (somewhat related to now or never energy - and very grateful to explore the perfectionist) 00:18:55 Christine Thomson: I’m excited about today because I also have “YouTube” plans and I find myself getting stuck in Perfectionism!! 00:19:28 Mindy Quoidbach: Reacted to "I’ve been really up ..." with ❤️ 00:19:30 Wendy: End of 2023 rough with Covid in the house. First day of 2024 filled with love - my nephew became a Dad.:) 00:20:47 Renée Fishman: what was the last one you said? it felt relevant but then I lost it 00:21:48 Renée Fishman: I can’t even get started on my biz website for going on 8 years .. 00:23:07 Emily Wright: can you say that again pls? 00:25:01 Emily Wright: thank you! 00:27:32 Renée Fishman: we are just focusing right now on the perfectionism and not the other side of this? 00:29:56 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "we are just focusing..." I get this—sometimes I worry I’ve let go of perfectionism TOO MUCH and I need to call some back. But also—I can see where it stops me all over the place…hmmmmm…my mind is really good at rationalizing and making myself wrong no matter what… 00:30:17 Renée Fishman: what are we answering right now? 00:30:23 Renée Fishman: how it is useful? 00:30:29 Staci Page: Perfectionism shows up in client sessions. What’s helpful about that is I’m seeing how I’m driven to always be improving myself. It’s not helpful when I judge myself for judging myself about the perspective of “am I offering a valuable enough session” for my clients. So unhelpful. 00:30:51 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her):  Being perfect will save me from… 00:33:18 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her):  I have learned from my parents, from media, from society that when I’m imperfect, it means that I…. 00:37:10 Sarah MacKay Lynch: I remember my beloved Aunt Shirley remarking at age 74 that she realized it was finally time to let go of her subscription to Sunset Magazine because she was never going to have THAT house. So relatable… 00:37:32 Viki Brown: Reacted to "I remember my belo..." with ❤️ 00:37:49 Randa Sultan: I have a question about this... in the "opposite way"... being PERFECT meant being treated specially... and also lead to others hating... 00:37:59 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I remember my belove..." with ❤️ 00:38:17 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I have a question ab..." with ❤️ 00:38:27 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "I have a question ab..." with ❤️ 00:53:30 Staci Page: GYST - can so relate, Christine 00:53:52 Renée Fishman: I have a pop-up on my blog for newsletter opt-ins with the CTA “get your shit together” and it’s one of the biggest converting pop-ups on my site. 00:54:17 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I have a pop-up on m..." with 🔥 00:55:10 Christine Thomson: Reacted to "I have a pop-up on m..." with ❤️ 00:55:16 Christine Thomson: Reacted to "GYST - can so relate..." with ❤️ 00:57:45 Inbal Sansani: Brilliant; love how you said that. 00:59:15 Renée Fishman: yes. one of the things that came up for me in the prompts was that if I’m imperfect it means that I’m a fraud or a hypocrite. because I was so trained to be the “good” girl. and if I wasn’t “perfect” I wasn’t “good” 01:02:35 AJ Frenzel: Randa - so so much of that is familiar and resonant. These are roles I have subconsciously played as well. 01:04:03 Sarah MacKay Lynch: When I was a little girl, I was entranced with that folk tale about the little elves who would make shoes for the cobbler at night. Where are my elves??? 01:07:35 AJ Frenzel: **middle ground is not mediocre** 01:07:44 Anika L: 😁 it’s like hearing it for the first time. 01:07:47 Renée Fishman: middle ground is not mediocre is a big one 01:07:50 cindy: that middle ground is not mediocre 01:08:16 Gloria Eid: When we’re in myth of perfect, we’re not in reality - that 01:08:18 Elijah Selby (she/her): Perfectionism is a tool of the patriarchy! 01:08:41 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "Perfectionism is a t..." with ❗ 01:08:51 Gloria Eid: Omg ya Staci tell ittt 01:09:01 cindy: Reacted to "Omg ya Staci tell it..." with ❤️ 01:09:04 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Perfectionism is a t..." with 💯 01:09:44 Inbal Sansani: Kind of white savior and 'hero' focus in the society/culture. 01:09:47 Nat Mossayebi: Reeeeally relate to this Staci 01:09:51 AJ Frenzel: Being unique to stand out… and fear of standing out because of our flaws/deficits 01:10:01 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): hello to my enneagram 4 😂 01:10:26 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Kind of white savior..." with ☝️ 01:10:38 Inbal Sansani: Replying to "hello to my enneagra..." What's 4? 01:11:03 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "hello to my enneagra..." One of my best friends is a 4 and she talks about this all the time! 01:11:33 Rose Corrick: @Michelle , yes, I am an Enneagram 4 too. And boy, do I need to feel special and unique and different and… 01:11:44 Renée Fishman: that’s how I publish a daily blog… I often don’t reread them. I allow it to be good enough. I struggle with adopting that approach in many other places 01:11:59 AJ Frenzel: “Good enough” also just triggered my mediocrity shadow 01:12:01 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Replying to "hello to my enneagra..." the enneagram is a personality system — 4s tend to want to feel special (or even think they are special) 01:12:11 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "@Michelle , yes, I a..." with 💜 01:12:29 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "One of my best frien..." with 💜 01:12:30 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "“Good enough” also j..." Oh I feel this. 01:12:32 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "“Good enough” also j..." with 🫂 01:12:36 Regena Garrepy: Reacted to "Being unique to stan..." with 👍🏼 01:12:38 Emily Wright: Reacted to "“Good enough” also j..." with ❤️ 01:12:38 Staci Page: Reacted to "**middle ground is n..." with ❤️ 01:12:41 Staci Page: Reacted to "😁 it’s like hearing..." with ❤️ 01:12:44 Staci Page: Reacted to "middle ground is not..." with ❤️ 01:12:44 Inbal Sansani: Replying to "hello to my enneagra..." Thanks; I wasn't sure what 4s were. 01:12:56 Staci Page: Reacted to "When we’re in myth o..." with ❤️ 01:13:32 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): I so relate to that, Bruce! 01:13:36 Staci Page: Reacted to "Omg ya Staci tell it..." with ❤️ 01:13:36 Renée Fishman: @Bruce Anderson I have a client who is very much in this. and creating awareness for him around this is so challenging 01:13:43 Staci Page: Reacted to "Perfectionism is a t..." with ❤️ 01:14:12 Staci Page: Reacted to "Kind of white savior..." with ❤️ 01:14:24 Staci Page: Reacted to "Reeeeally relate to ..." with ❤️ 01:14:53 Staci Page: Reacted to "Being unique to stan..." with 👍🏼 01:15:23 Staci Page: Reacted to "“Good enough” also j..." with ❤️ 01:15:58 Staci Page: Reacted to "the enneagram is a p..." with 👍🏼 01:15:59 Renée Fishman: that’s very resonant, @Sarah MacKay Lynch - creating that condition because it feels “safe” in some ways - not actually safe but familiar. it’s the comfort of the unomfortable 01:18:05 Staci Page: @Sarah MacKay Lynch thanks for sharing that! 01:18:06 Elijah Selby (she/her): I have a feeling that in “traditional” gender roles in heteronormative relationship that the feeling/need for family perfection might show up with slightly different flavors. Not sure. But I imagine women/moms to have a need to look good, have the house look good, and to raise well-mannered, “perfect” children and to be a “perfect” wife…sort of a 1950s feeling that I think can still creep into our psyches. And for men it might look/feel slightly different—like it is a status thing to have a perfect wife and perfect children…? 01:18:22 Randa Sultan: "mediocre" for me has a negative connotation;) 01:18:28 Renée Fishman: Reacted to ""mediocre" for me ha..." with ❤️ 01:18:28 AJ Frenzel: Bruce that’s huge to recognize & directly defines that internalized family pressure to be (appear!) perfect that a lot of us have identified. 01:18:34 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to ""mediocre" for me ha..." with 💯 01:18:41 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "I have a feeling tha..." with ❤️ 01:18:47 Staci Page: Reacted to ""mediocre" for me ha..." with 👍🏼 01:18:48 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Bruce that’s huge to..." with 💜 01:18:51 cindy: Reacted to ""mediocre" for me ha..." with 💯 01:18:58 cindy: Reacted to "I have a feeling tha..." with ❤️ 01:19:04 Karen Tasto: Let’s embrace our mediocre self. 01:19:12 Mindy Quoidbach: Reacted to "Let’s embrace our me..." with ❤️ 01:19:13 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): Reacted to "Let’s embrace our me..." with 💯 01:19:15 Staci Page: Reacted to "Let’s embrace our me..." with ❤️ 01:19:32 Gloria Eid: Replying to "Let’s embrace our me..." Let’s be so basic 😂 01:19:39 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "Let’s embrace our me..." with ❤️ 01:19:42 Sarah MacKay Lynch: Replying to "that’s very resonant..." Yes, and if so, we can slowly create another safe…or at least I hope so. 01:19:48 Renée Fishman: Replying to "Let’s embrace our me..." I feel like that would be great in theory but there’s a part of me that just really contracts against the idea of being mediocre 01:20:44 Sarah MacKay Lynch: Replying to "@Sarah MacKay Lynch ..." Happy to be hear listening and heart-pounding sharing. Listening is easier on the heart! And so lovely to get “Aha’s” by association. 🥰 01:22:29 Sarah MacKay Lynch: Replying to "that’s how I publish..." I CANNOT imagine not rereading a post. I wonder if I would ever dare to do that. Sounds courageous—I think I will try it on something small like an email. 01:22:51 Gloria Eid: Replying to "@Sarah MacKay Lynch ..." agreed 01:23:14 Staci Page: Reacted to "Happy to be hear lis..." with 👍🏼 01:23:17 Staci Page: Reacted to "agreed" with 👍🏼 01:23:41 Bruce Anderson: Elijah, I have both of those gendered dynamics in one big messy pile. 01:24:46 Renée Fishman: all of the things you just mentioned 01:24:47 Renée Fishman: and more 01:24:54 Randa Sultan: that sounds pretty extreme... haha 01:25:00 Staci Page: In my finances - I have a profitable month and I’m in the green so I’m a success. Or I’m in the red and my business was a failure that month. UGH 🙁 01:25:17 Christine Thomson: Either I create “PERFECT” videos, or I don’t create them at all! 01:25:17 Randa Sultan: @Staci Page yes success or failure 01:25:37 Staci Page: Reacted to "Either I create “PER..." with 👍🏼 01:25:42 Elijah Selby (she/her): Either I’m totally original in my thought leadership or I have nothing to say. 01:25:44 Bruce Anderson: The list varies from year to year…it’s a bubble under the carpet thing. There seems to need to be a list all the time. 01:25:54 Randa Sultan: Reacted to "Either I’m totally o..." with ❤️ 01:25:57 Regena Garrepy: Reacted to "Either I’m totally o..." with ❤️ 01:26:00 Staci Page: Replying to "Either I’m totally o..." Ooo yes 01:26:09 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Ooo yes" with 💜 01:26:10 Inbal Sansani: I'm either good at something or I'm not. 01:26:10 Renée Fishman: my workouts are either great and put me in my body and spark my dopamine to get work done or they’re a complete failure 01:26:35 Renée Fishman: I’m a masterful coach or I should quit coaching altogether 01:26:46 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "I’m a masterful coac..." with ☝️ 01:27:16 Lea Artis: Can someone share the last question Joanna asked? 01:27:35 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "Can someone share th..." Where in your life and work are you engaging in binary thinking? 01:27:41 Renée Fishman: Replying to "In my finances - I h..." one of the most profound things I read about money is that if you believe in “abundance” you also believe in “lack” because opposites naturally include their polarity. and the invitation instead to consider “sufficiency” - maybe that is helpful here? 01:27:51 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): For me today, creating awareness is asking for a pause for grieving. 01:27:59 Lea Artis: Reacted to "Where in your life a…" with ❤️ 01:28:02 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "For me today, creati..." with ❤️ 01:28:04 Lea Artis: Replying to "Can someone share th…" Thank you! 01:28:15 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "I'm either good at s..." with ❤️ 01:40:33 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "For me today, creati..." with ❤️ 01:40:39 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Eat! is exactly what..." with 😜 01:40:54 Suzanne Culberg: Reacted to "Eat! is exactly what..." with 👍 01:45:24 Randa Sultan: can this be if we just have the FEAR that...one of those is within? 01:49:41 Vessica: Loving the reframes 💛 01:50:56 Cathy Towle: Acceptance and integration of my inner critic/not doing enough is telling me to take care of myself and slow down 01:50:58 Vessica: Loving you found HD💫 I work with this system with my people and it really gives awareness to the why 💛 01:51:47 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): “juicy part that needs space” — the sloth rebrand ;) 01:51:50 Karen Tasto: Love this, Rose 01:51:53 Renée Fishman: for me, I feel like “lazy” or “sloth” is very different from rest. I’m not seeing a strong connection there 01:52:11 Staci Page: Reacted to "“juicy part that nee..." with 👍🏼 01:52:52 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "“juicy part that nee..." with 👍🏼 01:54:04 Renée Fishman: I feel a lot of resistance to many of these. Like mistakes - mistakes can hurt people and create injury 01:55:27 Inbal Sansani: Replying to "I feel a lot of resi..." Totally. And so can inaction. 01:55:32 nicoleoffenberg: The one that’s too much. I dont wanna be that 01:55:38 Inbal Sansani: The mediocre, basic one The one who makes mistakes 01:55:43 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): The sloppy one for me also resonates because I get very upset with the state of my daughter’s bedroom. Like there is nothing good about that to me. 01:55:46 Linda Kaun: I’m say the Mistake Maker 01:55:48 Kim Church: The mediocre one — regular one 01:55:50 Vessica: Mistake maker 01:55:54 Fran Darnell: The lazy one - I don’t want to have to work more or work harder 01:55:59 Rose: Lazy one 01:55:59 Regena Garrepy: The “stupid girl” 01:56:02 Cathy Towle: Lazy one 01:56:06 Cindy Palajac: lazy one 01:56:08 Renée Fishman: it feels like a confluence of things - but coming back to ADHD. like all of those parts 01:56:08 Mindy Quoidbach: The not special one 01:56:08 Karen Tasto: Mistake maker but I also have the dumb one 01:56:08 cindy: The one who doesn't have her shit together 01:56:10 Gloria Eid: I don’t know what the archetype would be but “The one who puts in the effort and still fails” 01:56:10 Suzanne Culberg: the demanding one 01:56:17 Staci Page: My naive, childlike perspective, polly-anna-ishness, someone others would look at instantly feel pity for because my mistakes were so obvious and I should have known better not to put my beliefs out there 01:56:21 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "I don’t know what th..." with ❤️ 01:56:23 Elijah Selby (she/her): My love for laziness 01:56:26 Emily Wright: Too Much One / Look at Me.... 01:56:27 Rose Corrick: The one who’s not vital and healthy like she “should” be 01:56:27 Renée Fishman: Replying to "I don’t know what th..." yes. this resonates 01:56:34 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "Too Much One / Look ..." with 💜 01:56:43 Renée Fishman: it’s like I’m trying to cover up all my ADHD parts 01:56:44 Lisa Brown: The Mediocre / Average / Less than Extraordinary One 01:56:46 AJ Frenzel: Mine is the Lazy One. The voice of my depression tells me I’m a lazy shit person. I believe it and feel it as SO SO awful and a terrible way to be. 01:56:56 Vessica: I’m loving the mistake maker becomes the risk taker 01:57:10 Sarah MacKay Lynch: I doubt I will have it all together enough—especially financially— to see myself to a ripe old age since I divorced my husband (twice!) 01:58:19 Fran Darnell: abundant energy and fountain of insights, the value of just my being 01:58:19 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): I’m seeing less judgment of myself and others. 01:58:26 Gloria Eid: The Failure to the Learner? 01:58:31 Renée Fishman: not seeing any gifts right now 01:58:37 Mindy Quoidbach: The not special one What would the super power be of the Not Special One - a resource for me? Take pressure of to do more and more and and constantly feeling like I have to prove or constantly feel like I’m behind 01:58:40 Elijah Selby (she/her): The gift of allowing myself to feel the JOY of my laziness as opposed to resisting it and feeling guilty about it. 01:58:41 Brenda: The Mean one who actually takes care of herself/ protects herself and doesn’t let others emotionally attack/drain her 01:58:43 Kim Church: Mediocre’ super power could be allowing me not to have to try so hard — I could just be me. 01:58:47 cindy: the one who creates community/asks for help and support 01:58:51 Jenni Gaines: Self Acceptance 01:58:52 nicoleoffenberg: I don’t see that one very clearly. What’s the gift of being afraid to be too much? Being the present one??? 01:59:01 Cathy Towle: Flipping Lazy into methodical energy that allows me to really structure things 02:00:22 Lisa Brown: Ability to create incredibly safe, growth oriented space for myself and my clients, by being unconditionally accepting and free from the stress of trying to appear perfect. 02:00:35 Vessica: Making mistakes means I’m growing and learning 💛 02:01:34 Fran Darnell: For the lazy one, The talent I sense it has is the potency of simplicity and the power of allowing others to do their own work, trusting in the gift of giving space for others to feel their own insights and wisdom and showing up for themselves 02:01:51 cindy: Reacted to "For the lazy one, Th..." with ❤️ 02:02:20 Renée Fishman: to be “mediocre” or “average” feels like going against everything I’ve ever been taught to be. and feels very much not me. because I don’t consider myself to be “mediocre” at all. 02:02:29 Renée Fishman: maybe that’s the sign its in shadow 02:03:04 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "maybe that’s the sig..." with 💯 02:03:18 Lea Artis: Not knowing beginners mind 02:03:19 Christine Thomson: What about the “Power Hungry/Manipulative” one?? 02:03:20 Renée Fishman: the dumb one resonates too 02:04:23 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): I relate Karen. My “dumb one” comes through as being really relatable, not trying to be “above” other people. 02:04:34 Staci Page: Reacted to "I relate Karen. My “..." with ❤️ 02:04:50 Staci Page: The gift of being incompetent, naive, child is being free to be self-expressed and experimental 02:04:56 Elijah Selby (she/her): Love that reframe on mediocre! 02:04:57 Colleen ONeill: Perfectionism is a mask that hides my authentic self from being visible and seen. While I want to be seen I struggle with allowing my authentic self to shine 02:05:10 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Perfectionism is a m..." with 💯 02:05:10 nicoleoffenberg: Could the gift of being afraid too much is: the expressive one? 02:05:22 AJ Frenzel: The Lazy One can authentically coach clients on Inviting Ease and simplicity. The lazy one can sustain energy, to soften the rollercoaster of chronic physical and mental health flair ups. 02:05:37 Renée Fishman: yeah I don’t buy the reframe on mediocre… for me. the idea that “Extraordinary can’t exist without mediocre” leaves me thinking “so other people can be mediocre" 02:05:40 Karen Tasto: Reacted to "I relate Karen. My “..." with ❤️ 02:05:58 Nat Mossayebi: Gifts of ‘the ugly one’ is not needing to impress anyone or need validation from anyone. There’s a freedom in that 02:06:32 Fran Darnell: Reacted to "The Lazy One can aut..." with ❤️ 02:06:44 Jen Youngquist: If everyone is special in their own way that means none of is actually any more 'special' than anyone else. In other words we really are all just mediocre 02:06:44 Staci Page: Perfectionism can create an unequal playing field, “above” others. Prospects and clients may perceive a perfectionist as unrelatable. It can be off-putting. 02:07:19 Gloria Eid: Replying to "yeah I don’t buy the..." Some parts of us/them mediocre, some parts extraordinary. Embracing that others are also everything, versus being only this or that 02:10:54 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "Some parts of us/the..." with ❤️ 02:11:16 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "Perfectionism is a m..." with ❤️ 02:28:16 Brenda: Can you ask others to mute themselves please? I am hearing a lot of water and gurgling background. 02:28:23 Lisa Brown: Me, too! 02:28:41 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Can you ask others t..." with 💜 02:29:10 Elijah Selby (she/her): Everyone is muted except Michelle and Joanna…so it’s something with one of their audio... 02:29:37 Elijah Selby (she/her): (At least when I look it seems like everyone else is muted…) 02:36:04 Fran Darnell: Thank you Michelle for your process and allowing us ti witness you 02:36:16 Mindy Quoidbach: Thank you, Michelle 02:36:37 cindy: Thank you Michelle! I related to so much of what you said! 02:38:29 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "Thank you Michelle f..." with 💜 02:38:33 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "Thank you, Michelle" with 💜 02:38:37 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "Thank you Michelle! ..." with 💜 02:44:03 Staci Page: Reacted to "Thank you Michelle! ..." with ❤️ 02:51:12 Inbal Sansani: Okay, that's good to know -- because it would've been hard for me as a practitioner. 02:51:21 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Okay, that's good to..." with 💜 02:52:32 Renée Fishman: It would have been hard for me too as a practitioner. I’m so attuned to noises. I put this in my contracts for clients to be in a quiet space. I even notice when a client puts a call on mute and I ask them to unmute. 02:53:56 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Of course it wasn’t happening before we started and stopped immediately when we were done… so apparently it was just to inspire this discussion! 02:54:06 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 🤣 02:54:08 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 💯 02:54:13 Kim Church: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t …" with 🤣 02:54:16 Inbal Sansani: Replying to "Of course it wasn’t ..." Perfect for this topic & day! 02:54:24 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 🤣 02:54:25 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "Perfect for this top..." with ❤️ 02:56:16 Elijah Selby (she/her): When I need to interrupt a client because of something like this, I always start with 1) putting myself in a deep energy of love and connection 2) gently saying, “This is so important. You’re doing so beautifully — and I can tell that the sound/movement/whatever is bringing me out of the moment. Is it possible to solve/change/something?” I never want my client to feel shamed, so my hope is to be in love and to normalize the imperfection! Then when the thing has been taken care of, I allow both of us to take whatever time we need to drop back into the groove….but I feel like my energy of no shame, this is normal, it’s all good, you’re doing great. is sooooo important. My client follows my lead. 02:56:34 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with 💜 02:56:59 Renée Fishman: Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with ❤️ 02:57:20 Lea Artis: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t …" with 💯 02:57:22 Lea Artis: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t …" with ❤️ 02:57:31 Regena Garrepy: Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with ❤️ 02:57:46 Lea Artis: Replying to "Of course it wasn’t …" LOL perfect 🤣 02:57:55 Mindy Quoidbach: Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with ❤️ 02:58:08 Renée Fishman: how would you respond if the client had resistance to this “welcome to the world” party? 02:58:09 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 😂 02:58:10 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with 💜 02:58:13 Lea Artis: Reacted to "When I need to inter…" with ❤️ 02:58:43 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "Of course it wasn’t ..." OMG yes, so perfect!!! The Universe has a great sense of humor. 02:58:52 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "how would you respon..." with 💜 02:59:07 Staci Page: Joanna, do I have this right? So with this technique they don’t have to locate when in time they made that part of them unacceptable? 02:59:46 Renée Fishman: or how would you do this with a client who had trouble visualizing? 02:59:50 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 🤣 03:00:01 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "or how would you do ..." with 💜 03:00:17 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Joanna, do I have th..." with 🌟 03:01:23 Brenda: Reacted to "When I need to inter..." with ❤️ 03:03:06 Nat Mossayebi: Reacted to "Of course it wasn’t ..." with 🤣 03:03:58 Vessica: “Depth comes from you when your not trying to be smart” 03:04:10 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "“Depth comes from yo..." with ☝️ 03:04:18 Vessica: Being smart gets in the way of depth 03:15:37 Karen Tasto: That’s great…just holding space for the part is huge and good enough 03:15:57 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): Reacted to "That’s great…just ho..." with 💜 03:17:17 Sarah MacKay Lynch: @Joanna - can you repeat what you just said about “it’s never the client’s / self’s highest part?” 03:17:26 Vessica: Be fully present with what is 💛 03:17:26 Inbal Sansani: There is something so precious about this technique. I can see the awe and perfection I see in babies and how much I want to grasp on to that for them, and I can see this being so healing, for us to remember our own perfection/not perfection. 03:17:54 Caitlin FitzGordon (she/her): Reacted to "There is something s..." with 💜 03:17:59 Gloria Eid: Reacted to "There is something s..." with 💜 03:18:56 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "There is something s..." with 💜 03:19:44 Elijah Selby (she/her): I love that, Fran! 03:19:50 Cathy Towle: Reacted to "There is something s..." with ❤️ 03:19:55 Staci Page: Reacted to "I love that, Fran!" with ❤️ 03:19:58 Randa Sultan: Reacted to "I love that, Fran!" with ❤️ 03:22:22 Elijah Selby (she/her): Honestly, Advanced was one of the most powerful programs I’ve ever done. The Shadow Retreat created deeply profound shifts. I cannot overstate that. It also created deep connections with the others in our group. 03:22:40 nicoleoffenberg: Reacted to "Honestly, Advanced w..." with ❤️ 03:22:57 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "Honestly, Advanced w..." with 💜 03:23:24 Kim Church: Advanced is incredibly rich and deep. Each session is powerful and the small cohort allows you to show up fully as well as deeply be seen. 03:23:29 Inbal Sansani: Advanced Depth is incredible; Shadow Work with Joanna specifically is beyond what people have any sense of. I'm in round 2 and would honestly do the Shadow Retreat once a year at least. It's my favorite work/approach toward wholeness and self-love, -acceptance, integration, etc. 03:23:38 nicoleoffenberg: Joanna’s retreats in person: highly recommended! 03:23:43 Elijah Selby (she/her): It’s true!!!! In person with Joanna was so deeply profound. I cannot say it enough! 03:23:43 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Honestly, Advanced w..." with 💜 03:23:52 Mindy Quoidbach: It is life changing ❤️ 03:23:56 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "It is life changing ..." with ❤️ 03:24:07 Inbal Sansani: Replying to "It is life changing ..." And fun and playful. 03:24:38 Fran Darnell: Having done Advanced Depths twice it was really fortifying for myself as well as has deeply impacted the work I am doing with my clients. 03:24:58 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Having done Advanced..." with 💜 03:25:00 Sarah MacKay Lynch: I heard an interesting statistic—not yet verified—the other day in case you have clients who struggle with ADHD. By the time they are 12 years old, kids with ADHD will have received roughly 30,000 extra corrective comments (admonishments, exclamations of disappointment from parents etc) as compared to the already huge number that the average neurotypical human being has received by that age. This would, of course, also be true of many other personality & otherwise wired types. 03:25:24 Staci Page: Advanced was absolutely worth it and more! 03:25:25 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I heard an interesti..." with 🤨 03:25:27 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): https://jlicoachtrainingprogram.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/advanceddepth2024/AdvancedDepth2024Brochure-Embody-PriceGoodUntil-1.24.2024.pdf 03:25:31 Anika L: Reacted to "I heard an interesti…" with 🥺 03:25:31 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "Advanced was absolut..." with 💜 03:25:36 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "Advanced was absolut..." Agreed! 03:25:42 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "Advanced was absolut..." with 💜 03:25:44 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I heard an interesti..." with 🥺 03:26:37 Sarah MacKay Lynch: I have to open an 11:30am ZOOM. Thank you Joanna and everyone…🥰 03:26:48 Mindy Quoidbach: Reacted to "And fun and playful." with ❤️ 03:26:52 Bruce Anderson: The in-person Advanced retreat was a significant time in my year. Also, the Advanced content and practice created a real comfort in me in using the tools. I don’t think I would have used as much going forward if I didn’t have Advanced to create that comfort. It’s just too much content in Sacred Depths for me to not have had nother shot at integrating it in Advanced. 03:26:56 Elijah Selby (she/her): I want to add that Advanced helped my business and supported my growth as a master coach. That’s true. But the fact that it PROFOUNDLY and DEEPLY changed me to my core is priceless…I really cannot say this enough. 03:27:04 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "The in-person Advanc..." with 💜 03:27:09 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "I want to add that A..." with 💯 03:27:18 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "The in-person Advanc..." with 💜 03:27:41 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): Reacted to "I want to add that A..." with 💜 03:28:03 Staci Page: Replying to "The in-person Advanc..." Agree! 03:28:22 Elijah Selby (she/her): Get my first YouTube video posted. 03:28:32 Elijah Selby (she/her): Lori??? 03:28:34 Elijah Selby (she/her): LOL! 03:28:38 Inbal Sansani: Our Monthly Embody Practice Call is on Wednesday, January 17 at 12 pm ET for 90 minutes. 03:28:39 Elijah Selby (she/her): SUPPORT GROUP! 03:28:47 Christine Thomson: Reacted to "SUPPORT GROUP!" with ❤️ 03:28:49 Staci Page: Reacted to "Our Monthly Embody P..." with 👍🏼 03:28:56 Staci Page: Reacted to "SUPPORT GROUP!" with 👍🏼 03:28:59 Christine Thomson: Replying to "SUPPORT GROUP!" I’d love this, Elijah!! 03:29:03 Renée Fishman: do my video series on visibility the “get to know me” challenge I outlined last month. and also my IG reels that are stacking up 03:29:09 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "I’d love this, Elija..." with 💜 03:29:23 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "SUPPORT GROUP!" Let’s make it happen! 03:29:29 Lisa Brown: If you have not taken Advanced Depths, I can highly recommend it. It will take all that you have learned in Sacred Depths to the next level. Even though it will be an additional investment of time and money, it will actually help you get even more return on investment from all the previous programs you’ve done with Joanna! That has been my experience. 💗 03:29:29 Christine Thomson: Reacted to "Let’s make it happen..." with 👍 03:29:42 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "If you have not take..." with 💜 03:29:46 Christine Thomson: Replying to "SUPPORT GROUP!" @Elijah Selby (she/her) I will message you on FB 03:29:49 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "If you have not take..." with 💜 03:29:53 Elijah Selby (she/her): Reacted to "@Elijah Selby (she/h..." with 💜 03:29:56 Elijah Selby (she/her): Replying to "SUPPORT GROUP!" Kk! 03:30:09 Staci Page: Reacted to "If you have not take..." with ❤️ 03:30:27 Randa Sultan: Reacted to "If you have not take..." with ❤️ 03:30:38 Brenda: Whatever comes up is always perfect 03:30:48 Kim Church: Things in shadow need more love 03:30:58 Renée Fishman: I’m still feeling stuck in the acceptance of mediocre. feels like maybe that’s the place to work? 03:31:02 Cathy Towle: Strength and creativity is right behind my fears of doing it wrong 03:31:04 Mindy Quoidbach: My mediocre/basic/not so special one is special 03:31:07 nicoleoffenberg: As practitioner be fully present and hold space. And be the expressive one this month 03:31:09 Michelle Marlahan (she/her): The shadow one loves being them, loves who they are! 03:31:15 Inbal Sansani: Reacted to "The shadow one loves..." with 💯 03:31:19 Fran Darnell: The superpower of the lazy one being the potency of Simplicity