00:00:45 Janná Giles: Hello Lovely Ones! 00:00:57 Joli Knott: Hi everyone! 00:01:06 Sophie Jane Hardy: SO lovely to be here with you all tonight 00:01:19 Nell Reid: Hello everyone! Will do a FB intro soon! 00:01:24 AJ Frenzel: Good day beautiful people 00:01:30 Aiyana : Great to be with you, too, Sophie! 00:01:36 Barbara Daughter: Hello everyone! 00:02:23 Veronica Jensen: Hello friends! 00:02:45 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Hello all, so great to be here with you beautiful souls! 00:05:16 Lisa Scott: Just beautiful…. 00:06:10 Simone (si MUN): Hello all! Happy to be here live with you. 00:06:21 Barbara Daughter: What a beautiful and powerful experience, Aiyana 00:06:25 Jacque Alderete: Hi Simone! Glad you are here live today 00:06:39 Aiyana : Thank you, Barbara! 00:07:56 Joli Knott: Nice one, Sophie Jane! 00:08:15 Sophie Jane Hardy: Thanks Joli :) It was a quietly beautiful moment. 00:13:41 Kendra Woods: You held such beautiful space for him Maya. 💗 00:13:41 amy palatnick: wow Maya what a story 00:13:51 Layne Mosler: Go, Maya! 00:13:53 Jacque Alderete: That's SO powerful Maya! 00:14:03 Alta Felix: Wow, that's amazing!! 00:14:07 Sophie Jane Hardy: Wow, the trust you built with him. Amazing Maya. 00:14:08 Joli Knott: What a wonderful share, Maya—really powerful! 00:14:47 iPhone: Thank you everyone ❤️ sorry Amy lol 00:15:14 Sophie Jane Hardy: Powerful to feel your leadership @michelyn 00:15:41 Aiyana : @Maya - powerful share! 00:16:33 Simone (si MUN): What I’m learning in this training is SO relevant in my work of managing a team. And this team’s role is to create a safe container with students, so I’m very excited to talk with them about energetics, etc 00:20:29 Deva Munay: You can not listen deeply unless you clean your ears first. — I think I’m missing part of the exact quote from Joanna — does anyone mind sharing it? 00:20:49 Veronica Jensen: We’re never listening w/ clean ears unless we clean them first. 00:20:56 Veronica Jensen: You have it, Deva :) 00:22:15 Simone (si MUN): It is so often incredibly uncomfortable when we have our filters brought to our attention. 00:23:29 Jacque Alderete: Is a filter the same thing as a paradigm? 00:24:11 amy palatnick: sometimes having a similar experience can impede our listening 00:24:40 Barbara Daughter: I understand this concept as “Standpoint Theory” 00:25:39 Simone (si MUN): Good point, amy 00:27:25 Kendra Woods: Could these be seen as also us checking our expectations? Because I feel like some of my expectations are formed based on my filters. 00:27:40 Tina Dowdy: I actually stopped seeing a practitioner because he wasn't aware of his filters - he made too many assumptions and it really made me feel unheard. 00:28:25 Barbara Daughter: I agree @Kendra … our expectations are based on our filters 00:28:58 melissa k: @Tina I have experienced that many times, too! It really makes things awkward... 00:29:34 Tina Dowdy: @melissa - it was very awkward. <3 00:30:26 Carmen Miranda: This extends to the entirety of life and relationships. I always want to and try to be conscious of my filters it can be really difficult though to really understand what's real or what's a story- what's my stuff or what's theirs. Especially now that we are bombarded with so much information 00:30:51 Barbara Daughter: Would you describe “privilege” as another type of “filter”? 00:33:52 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): what was the example after race? 00:33:58 Jacque Alderete: Religion 00:34:31 Deva Munay: And something so simple as white/peach colored bandaids that only blend in with white skin. 00:34:45 Kendra Woods: Checking our filters really lends us to a place of being more compassionate I think as well. 00:35:38 Aiyana : @Kendra. Yes, for sure 00:35:57 Lisa Scott: Divorced 00:36:07 MaryAnn: The filter of being marginalized based on being a women 00:36:09 Alta Felix: Having lived through intimate partner abuse 3x 00:36:14 Aiyana : Yes, Deva. I have thought of that before when my friends with brown skin wear bandaides 00:36:17 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): parenting a challenging child 00:36:22 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Having had my own health struggles and crises with clients for whom I’m supporting in their healing 00:36:28 Joli Knott: Being an immigrant 00:36:30 AJ Frenzel: Having lived in NYC 00:36:34 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Yes, Michelyn 00:36:34 amy palatnick: being sensitive 00:36:38 MaryAnn: Socio-economic background 00:36:42 Alta Felix: Immigrant parents 00:36:49 Emily Golden, MCC (she/her): Filter of being Jewish with generational trauma. 00:36:49 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): having worked with immigrants and refugees when working with people in humanitarian settings 00:36:50 Jen Youngquist: simply being a woman 00:36:53 Randa Sultan: Growing up with trauma at home, mentally unstable parents, as an empath, intuit, emotionally abusive relationships, 00:36:53 Maya: Poverty inner city lifestyle 00:36:53 Tina Dowdy: same - immigrant parents 00:36:56 Simone (si MUN): Experiencing the perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis loop… 00:37:00 Simone (si MUN): Being a step mom 00:37:01 Deva Munay: I did a lot of reproductive health care and understanding the trauma of having been sexually abused/molested 00:37:03 Carla Sanders: Religious upbringing/wounds, divorced, Woman, Crone, My pain points may be similar to hers 00:37:10 Jacque Alderete: List of filters of privilege that Joanna spoke about: Race Religion Heterosexual/Cisgendered Being able bodied Economic Label Coming from a 2 parent, somewhat stable home Being from the US with English as the first language 00:37:14 Janná Giles: The filter of having had a 20 year corporate & tech career. Chronic pain sufferer 00:37:36 Annelise Pesa: Being white 00:37:43 Alta Felix: My ability to bounce back quickly 00:37:45 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): being highly sensitive can get in the way sometimes1 00:37:48 Jen Youngquist: living in the USA 00:37:49 Angela Stringhini: Question: Could you please explain the privilege and the filter different. I am sorry I think I am a bit confused to differentiate them, because any filter can be a privilege depending on the way you look, is that right? 00:37:52 amy palatnick: financial stability 00:37:56 Sophie Jane Hardy: Being heterosexual and cis-gender 00:37:56 Simone (si MUN): Being white, middle class, raised by two parents - working with indigenous people who were in the justice system. 00:37:58 AJ Frenzel: Enjoying exercise 00:37:59 Aafke: Not being religious 00:38:00 Kendra Woods: My ambition 00:38:02 Janná Giles: Assuming that everyone desires to achieve and succeed 00:38:08 Tina Dowdy: knowing how to cook. lol 00:38:24 amy palatnick: Trust in the universe 00:38:30 Carla Sanders: White privilege, able bodied, healthy, relatively trauma-free life 00:38:33 Barbara Daughter: ability to learn and retain a lot of information 00:38:33 Randa Sultan: having worked through a lot of my "stuff", and no understanding how someone can keep falling back into their patterns... 00:38:35 Deva Munay: That love comes before trust 00:38:53 Veronica Jensen: It strikes me that filters are often all parts of our identity, and filters we're unaware of are ones we don't typically claim in our identity. 00:39:14 Barbara Daughter: interesting point, @Veronica 00:39:16 Lisa Scott: To check in with myself more…. so many unchecked filters 00:39:27 Aiyana : I used to think that most people were lazy because I did so much more than everyone around me. I had gone through cancer, car accidents and illness and still worked circles around others and excelled. Then, I had one more accident with major TBI and spinal cord perforation and then a cascade of other ailments. I lost my ability to function and lost my energy. I realized then what it is like for many people who don’t have energy to function. 00:39:53 amy palatnick: (((Aiyana))) 00:40:11 Barbara Daughter: Big hugs @Aiyana 00:40:22 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): Love to you, Aiyana 00:40:54 Joli Knott: 💙@Aiyana 00:40:55 Aiyana : Thank you, Amy and Barbara and Michelyn. I feel your love. Thank you 00:41:05 Aiyana : Joli too ;) 00:41:41 Veronica Jensen: Powerful perspective shift, Aiyana. Love to you <3 00:41:56 Aiyana : Thank you, Veronica 00:42:12 Angela Stringhini: Question: It would be fair to say that we need to approach every client with a compassionate heart and ears, so that we can listen without being judgmental , because we are all different and we all have different experiences in life? 00:42:20 AJ Frenzel: Would you say Filter = Viewpoint that is subconsions 00:42:23 Sophie Jane Hardy: When I experienced chronic illness, followed by long-term infertility, I realized that I’d had such an able-bodied filter up to that point in my life… that woke me up to other privileges i have and set me off on a much needed journey to check my privilege 00:43:23 Barbara Daughter: great observation @Carmen! 00:43:30 Joli Knott: I hear you, Sophie Jane—I had a similar journey 💜 00:43:33 Aiyana : Awakening to one filter/judgment helped me see any others too. 00:43:37 Brenda: Carmen, Loved that observation. 00:43:37 Veronica Jensen: @Carmen I've been sitting with that same belief in myself. Thanks for voicing it 00:43:51 AJ Frenzel: “I can’t afford it” is also a filter! 00:43:58 Carla Sanders: Carmen, you nailed that. I have to shift that almost daily. 00:44:12 Aiyana : Thank you for that share, Carmen. I have been starting to shift my thinking in this way too. Hearing you articulate it feels goodl 00:44:14 Carmen Miranda: Something to go into deep inner discussion with 00:45:09 amy palatnick: internalized oppression 00:45:21 Janná Giles: It seems to me that beliefs are not filters, but our filters inform and craft our beliefs. 00:45:22 Barbara Daughter: Great observation @Magali! 00:45:34 AJ Frenzel: Absolutely Magali 00:48:30 Barbara Daughter: yes @Amy 00:49:00 Deva Munay: I don’t see it in the chat yet? 00:49:10 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner 00:51:38 Carla Sanders: Adapting your filter to understand what they are going through. 00:51:50 Randa Sultan: yes @ Carla...! 00:52:58 Randa Sultan: could challenging the filters (of a client let's say), could this be considered something that will not be holding the container as safe 00:55:15 Angela Stringhini: You can use filters to select you niche? 00:56:49 amy palatnick: @randa, great question 00:57:53 Joli Knott: I’ve recently had a similar experience, Randa—looking forward to doing more on this! 00:57:55 Barbara Daughter: And we all can have so many cognitive biases as well 00:57:57 MaryAnn: Randa, that’s such a great question about how to help people see beyond their blinders 00:58:04 Vlada Tomova: I am coming to so much of that as well! 00:58:29 Randa Sultan: MaryAnn that is a great way to word it - thank you! 01:02:28 Rachel Alva (she/they): I think consent is really critical--not everyone is ready/interested in shifting their perspective. 01:03:16 Joli Knott: SUCH a good point, Rachel! 01:03:34 Aafke: Yes Rachel! 01:04:00 Rachel Alva (she/they): 💙 01:06:12 AJ Frenzel: (Will we have a bio break today?) 01:08:37 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): • Category #1: Client’s Presence 01:08:40 Sophie Jane Hardy: Always coach the WHAT based on the WHO. So listen for the WHO. If you have two clients focused on the same WHAT, you won’t necessarily approach them in the same way. 01:08:58 Sophie Jane Hardy: Oops - I was taking notes for me :) 01:12:28 melissa k: @Sophie lol....I was so happy you put the notes there! ;) I had missed a part! 01:15:56 Alta Felix: The clients essential nature 01:16:00 Veronica Jensen: essential nature 01:16:01 Runa: pacing 01:16:03 Joli Knott: I struggle with silence! 01:16:07 Barbara Daughter: essential nature 01:16:08 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): essential nature 01:16:11 Lisa Scott: Silence for sure 01:16:13 Simone (si MUN): Essential nature 01:16:16 Randa Sultan: how connected they are 01:16:20 Jacque Alderete: Their engagement levels 01:16:21 Sophie Jane Hardy: Emotional state - I often want to get to the content! 01:16:22 Rachel Alva (she/they): I’ve noticed I have a bias—I’m really good at picking up on unpleasant energy, and I’m likely to misattribute it as disapproval when it’s usually not about me 01:16:24 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): and how engaged they are 01:16:25 AJ Frenzel: Emotional state and addressing that first 01:16:40 Vlada Tomova: how connected they are 01:16:50 Sophie Jane Hardy: Me too Rachel 01:16:52 Tina Dowdy: nature and tone 01:16:55 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): @Rachel, thank you for that. i definitely notice this in myself as well. 01:16:58 Joli Knott: Me, too, Rachel!! 01:16:58 Aiyana : Listening for silence. 01:17:10 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): • Category #2: Apparent Clues 01:18:52 Sidsel - iPhone: Answer to category one: pacing, expression and voice 01:22:04 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): o Match or mismatch between behavior, goals and commitments o What is motivating the client o Specific language and terms the client uses (Use this language) o Client Strengths – this is SO important o Client’s obstacles and potential obstacles o Clients beliefs o Client Wins and celebrations o Shifting of goals and vision o Who is influencing the client (who are they listening to or modeling) 01:22:11 MaryAnn: It’s super helpful to have the list to follow along with today 🙂 01:22:33 Simone (si MUN): Strengths 01:22:37 Veronica Jensen: who is influencing them 01:22:39 Alta Felix: match or mismatch 01:22:41 Jacque Alderete: Match or mismatch with the goal they are talking about 01:22:44 Annelise Pesa: Who is influencing them 01:22:44 Randa Sultan: clients goals and visions - have they changed? 01:22:45 Sophie Jane Hardy: Question: With so many things to be listening for, sessions could literally go in so many different directions… I often find myself torn between where to go… and I think it can make me a bit tight and controlling. 01:22:47 Deva Munay: What is motivating them? 01:22:49 Sidsel - iPhone: Obstacles 01:22:51 AJ Frenzel: Specific language 01:22:52 amy palatnick: what motivates the client, underneath 01:22:55 Rachel Alva (she/they): Strengths 01:22:58 Maya: Obstacles 01:23:05 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): client beliefs 01:23:06 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): what's motivating them 01:23:13 Aiyana : What’s motivating them 01:23:14 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): and who is influencing them 01:23:28 Vlada Tomova: match and mismatch and what motivates a client 01:23:35 Runa: Languaging…which I feel might lead to understanding more about their beliefs 01:23:37 MaryAnn: Match or mismatch 01:24:03 Barbara Daughter: interesting observation @Runa 01:24:34 amy palatnick: clients’ feedback should be energetic, showing the way for us to go/what to follow. 01:24:43 Barbara Daughter: Are you suggesting “context” before “content” in general? 01:24:52 Aiyana : Love that, Amy. Yes 🙂 01:25:58 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): • Category #3: Non-Apparent Clues 01:26:35 MaryAnn: Can you give examples of how to ask a client about what they might not be saying? When your intuition is telling you there’s something beneath the surface that is impacting the results they want to create. 01:31:02 Randa Sultan: When should we be planning for the coaching buddy sessions to start? 01:31:57 Alta Felix: Practicing is important 01:32:12 Joli Knott: All the different ways I can tune in to the client and listen even more deeply! 01:32:14 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): all of these "little" things matter 01:32:18 Deva Munay: Using it in all areas of my life! 01:32:19 Aafke: Letting my ears do more of the work 🙂 01:32:20 Aiyana : Pay more attention to my filters, especially the ones I take for granted 01:32:20 Lisa Scott: By clearing my filters I can listen more deeply 01:32:21 Veronica Jensen: A reminder to look for all of the various layers of identity that hide in our filters, and the filters that hide in our layers of identity 01:32:33 Kendra Woods: More mindfulness in regards to my filters with my clients and family. 01:32:36 Janná Giles: Learning what kind of learner the client is… 01:32:36 Brenda: So many unconscious filters 01:32:40 Simone (si MUN): Takeaway: More inquiry about when a person is ready/willing to have their filters brought to their attention. 01:32:50 MaryAnn: Takeaway: I loved this discussion about filters. It’s not a new topic for me, but lately I’ve been noticing some particular filters with client work…so the timing is perfect for a deeper exploration. 01:33:38 AJ Frenzel: Always checking my filters, without the myth of perfection that I will aways see it. And without fear of filters stopping me from engaging. 01:33:53 Vlada Tomova: listening for motivation is one big take away probing if the client is ready for more right this moment 01:33:53 Kendra Woods: Takeaway: I recognize that as I following these techniques it actually takes me out of my head and into my body where I am able to hear my client more clearly and my own intuitive messages more clearly. 01:34:02 Jacque Alderete: Takeaway: Being extra aware of my filters, I do know what I'm doing and can honor how far I've come so far, and this is an ART form (not a science) and I can relax as I keep trusting the creation process that unfolds during my sessions 01:34:41 Veronica Jensen: Thank you for today! 01:34:42 Barbara Daughter: Take-away: filters are complex 01:34:43 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): big takeaways: going deeper in checking my filters and listening for essential nature. 01:34:44 Joli Knott: Thank you for today! 01:34:46 Kendra Woods: Thank you so much! 01:34:46 Jacque Alderete: Thank you Joanna!! 01:34:47 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Thank you SO much, Joanna! 01:34:50 melissa k: Takeaway - The work I need to do to check my filters as well as looking where I am being influenced and losing centre 01:34:50 Alta Felix: Thank you!!! 01:34:53 Lisa Scott: Thank you as always xx 01:34:53 Angela Stringhini: Thank you so much! 01:34:57 Sophie Jane Hardy: My takeaway… I’ve learned so much about my filters lately… its made me a little afraid of working one to one! Thats changing today 01:34:59 Janná Giles: Thank you! 01:35:00 Nell Reid: Thank you so much! So glad to be here! 01:35:00 Barbara Daughter: thanks everyone & Joanna! 01:35:06 Simone (si MUN): Thank you!