00:01:01 Angela Stringhini: Good evening everyone! 00:01:03 Layne Mosler: Yes! In a Bulgarian forest. 00:03:17 Wendy: Good afternoon! I'm going to be on and off screen today. I am on my 5th day of Covid and hoping I"ll be able to focus for the class. 00:04:24 Sophie Jane Hardy: I REALLY appreciate the chance to catch up! 00:04:43 Barbara Daughter: Hope you're on a quick road to recovery @Wendy 00:05:07 Sophie Jane Hardy: Love to you @Wendy 00:05:32 amy palatnick: (((Wendy))) 00:05:43 Carla Sanders: Oh Wendy, I hope it's a rather light case. Been there! take care! 00:07:50 Wendy: Thank you all for the love, support, and well wishes. <3 00:08:21 Sophie Jane Hardy: Hope you have a gorgeous rest Joanna! 00:16:38 MaryAnn McNulty: Yes, Isa! I'm envisioning the fear with the foot on our neck….and befriending the fear so that it reaches out its hand and helps us stand up. 00:16:51 MaryAnn McNulty: From threat to ally. 00:17:36 Alta Felix: I love that! 00:18:49 Isa Beaulieu (she/her): @MaryAnn...Oooo, I LOVE that image of an outstretched hand. Because our Fear is trying to protect us, right? I'm working toward having an Obi Wan Kenobi Fear vs. a Walking Dead Fear. Hahaha 00:20:00 MaryAnn McNulty: Yes Obi Wan! 00:21:56 AJ Frenzel: Hugs Amy. It sound like the danger in the here and now, gave an access path to the experiences from the then and there 00:22:19 amy palatnick: @AJ, exactly. 00:23:40 Angela Stringhini: I totally panic if Joseph, my son, will get hurt, it is almost like a panic attack…that is huge, everything else I am fearless... is parent fear a need to protect the child? 00:24:03 Barbara Daughter: appreciate these observations everyone 00:25:10 Brenda: @Michelyn - Appreciate your awareness about managing your nervous system and your child’s nervous system. I hadn't heard it in those words before and it resonates. Thank you 00:26:24 Didi Orr: Michelin, that makes so much sense to me! Im so fear motivated, I don’t know its there most of the time until I sit with bit for a minute and allow myself to physically feel it 00:28:54 Janná Giles: I really resonate with this MaryAnn! 00:29:15 Sophie Jane Hardy: I love the idea that anxiety or fear is excitement without breath. 00:29:48 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Oh, MaryAnn, I'm so there with you - just about a month ahead and moving through these decision points and feelings each day with our upcoming move! 00:29:50 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): Parenting isn't for sissies! Neither is marriage or owning a business or making a new habit or..... 00:31:06 Melissa K: It's like an anticipatory fear! 00:31:53 AJ Frenzel: ***BOOM*** MaryAnn 00:32:32 Tina Dowdy: and on the flip side - sometimes things go with ease and fairy dust - but then turn to hell. lol 00:32:55 Melissa K: Resilience with discomfort...I love that 00:32:55 MaryAnn McNulty: Not that I don't support ease and fairy dust! 🙂 00:33:07 Angela Stringhini: Joanna Question please: What is the difference between Befriend your fear and love your fear under your perspective? I am curious 00:34:41 Janná Giles: Yes, aligned doesn’t mean relaxed or easy. I was going to be moving overseas next June, and very recently have been invited to do this sooner… I’m now moving overseas for the first time in October, so much to do, excited/nervous 🌞 00:35:28 amy palatnick: or even just be curious about it! 00:36:27 Angela Stringhini: thank you 00:36:45 Layne Mosler: Thank you for asking that, Angela. 00:42:29 Angela Stringhini: @Layne 🥰 00:43:08 amy palatnick: resistance wrapped around the fear! 00:43:12 Michelyn.com (MIKE-uh-lin): It's so striking that when we are in fear our natural resources can get shut down. So this work is superhuman! 00:43:30 Angela Stringhini: love this @Barbara 00:44:03 Tina Dowdy: great question Barbara 00:48:17 Angela Stringhini: Joanna please: I am looking the handout and the steps are a bit different . 00:48:20 Angela Stringhini: In name 00:48:39 Angela Stringhini: sorry forget my question 00:53:12 MaryAnn McNulty: Sounds obvious: if old info comes up again, it's because they need to hear it again or process it more deeply, completely, etc. But it's amazing that we do tend to downplay "old info….” in favor of new, sexy info. 🙂 00:55:48 MaryAnn McNulty: Our brain wants to check the box…”Yep, dealt with that issue already, let's move on.” 00:56:19 Barbara Daughter: Good observation @MaryAnn ... I know my brain wants to do that 00:58:16 Kim Job: A flourishing business requires a flourishing business owner. 01:01:53 Layne Mosler: Carla, what you said about harming yourself — that's such a powerful realization. 01:02:11 Layne Mosler: And I can relate! 01:04:15 Barbara Daughter: an amazing share @Sophie Jane 01:04:33 Layne Mosler: *Very* inspiring, Sophie. 01:04:46 MaryAnn McNulty: Yes, thanks for sharing this example, and congrats on a powerful session for both your client and yourself. 🙂 01:05:20 Sidsel - iPhone: ❤️Sophie 01:08:20 AJ Frenzel: This co-regulation awareness is helping me celebrate the magic bit of doula work and the value of the “easy part” I bring to my moneydoula clients, just being together through their fear and discomfort. 01:08:44 Sophie Jane Hardy: Yes, I feel the same AJ. 01:09:21 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): It is such a sacred thing to simply BE with someone in their fear and discomfort, without judgment or "should’s”. For sure, AJ. Loving all of this! 01:09:36 Layne Mosler: This fear-befriending dialog process feels extraordinarily powerful and full of potential. It also feels extremely delicate and potentially harmful. 01:10:15 Sophie Jane Hardy: Can you say that again 01:11:08 Jacque Alderete: Do you find that everyone is able to feel that trust as SOON as they connect into spirit? 01:17:06 amy palatnick: Layne's comment above seems important to address 01:17:36 Jacque Alderete: Is there a way to do this work by yourself for yourself? Or do you need someone else to help you work through these steps? What do you recommend for working through this ourselves? 01:22:15 Barbara Daughter: Joanna - can you share that title again? 01:22:38 AJ Frenzel: @ Barbara: Coaching and Trauma 01:23:04 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): Coaching and Trauma, Julia Vaughan Smith 01:23:11 MaryAnn McNulty: I just pulled it up if anyone wants the link: https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Trauma-Julia-Vaughan-Smith/dp/033524842X/ref=asc_df_033524842X/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509159807707&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1750164607488655831&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9002075&hvtargid=pla-875667175087&psc=1 01:23:11 amy palatnick: Janina fisher uses this line "this is a memory" to help clients recognize their triggers as "then and there" --she teaches her clients to say it out loud when they get triggered. great little line 01:24:15 Layne Mosler: Oh, I love that, Amy. Thank you. 01:24:18 Vlada Tomova: .... slooooooooow down! 🙂 01:24:32 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Yes, that's great, Amy. 01:24:41 amy palatnick: Most potent for me is that the familiar, same old same old, isn't always integrated and resourced. this is huge for me and my clients. i so often get hypnotized by their limits and the things they "already know" about themselves. 01:24:54 Sophie Jane Hardy: That my self-regulation helps my clients befriend their fear. That I can ask them to pause, and see their insights (even ones they’ve had before) and help them slow down, pause and receive them 01:25:17 Melissa K: Much to ponder on the layers of fear & resistance and what is 'true fear', 'mind fear' vs alignment, intuition, etc. 01:25:45 Barbara Daughter: helpful insight @amy 01:26:01 Jacque Alderete: For me, it's about connecting with the fear and then facilitating them to connect into a space of trust with something bigger than themselves. This is key 01:26:08 Sidsel - iPhone: Fear is an ally 01:26:10 Carla Sanders: Yes Slow Down. Respect this process deeply. Take care of my own vessel to help create the coaching vessel for this tender work. Energetics of the container real important (all the way back to the start of SD) 01:26:12 Tina Dowdy: have client track their fears 01:26:24 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Taking away the intentional process of allying with our fear, making friends with it, together, so we can walk together through the hard stuff, and then they can make a conscious, empowered choice 01:26:34 Jen Youngquist: I didn't realize how important my own regulation was. 01:26:42 Sophie Jane Hardy: Yes Sidsel! 01:28:08 amy palatnick: but it screams integrity! 01:28:31 amy palatnick: (@ MaryAnn) 01:28:40 MaryAnn McNulty: Yes, Amy. 🙂 01:32:00 Barbara Daughter: so much here today! thanks everyone! 01:32:07 Carla Sanders: Thank you ALL! 01:32:09 Angela Stringhini: wonderful Joanna, very powerful session again! 01:32:13 amy palatnick: thanks everyone!