00:01:23 Angela Stringhini: Hello everyone, so nice to be here! 00:01:33 Joli Knott: Hi everyone—so nice to see you all! 00:01:34 Aiyana McKenzie: 🥰 00:01:44 Aiyana McKenzie: Yes, Angela and Joli 00:01:49 Alta Felix: Hey!!! 00:07:56 AJ Frenzel: My kids will be Wow’ed when I tell them I was in community with a Moth story slam winner! 🤩 00:10:17 Aiyana McKenzie: I did something similar years ago. I also felt like I would die of embarrassment 😂 00:12:23 Rai: Yes! Visibility coupled doubled with threat. Thank you for voicing that, Cara. 00:16:06 Cara Jones: WHY AM I BEING CALLED TO USE MY VOICE RIGHT NOW? You are being called…. 00:22:14 Alta Felix: Hey Anne!!! 00:34:59 Annelise Pesa: Hello Alta- did you get my email love?? Looking in great form ❤️ 00:37:18 Aiyana McKenzie: 9 00:37:19 Angie O'Neill: 10 00:37:20 Michelle Marlahan: 3 00:37:21 Angela Stringhini: 5 00:37:21 Lisa Avnet: 8 00:37:22 Lauren Piro (she/her): 10 00:37:22 Jen Youngquist: 8 00:37:22 Rai: 8 00:37:23 Alta Felix: 9 00:37:24 Layne Mosler: 8 00:37:26 AJ Frenzel: 9 00:37:28 Doris Navarro (she/her): 10 00:37:29 Annelise Pesa: 6 00:37:30 Joli Knott: 8 00:37:31 Lara Storm: 6 00:37:32 Brenda: 6-8 00:37:36 Sarah MacKay (she/her): 7 00:37:37 Rai: 8 00:37:45 Carla Sanders: 4 00:37:51 Annemieke: 7 00:38:00 Alta Felix: generic posts 00:38:05 Brenda: Dangerous to speak up 00:38:07 Angela Stringhini: Likeable, smile despite of.. 00:38:07 Angie O'Neill: Don’t need or ask for anything - they may not love you anymore. 00:38:10 Rai: generic posts 00:38:15 Lauren Piro (she/her): don't need or ask for anything 00:38:15 Lisa Avnet: nailed it on the social media habits, generic posts and averse to testamonials 00:38:21 Joli Knott: “I am the good one and I am going to make you likeable whether you like it or not.” 00:38:25 Layne Mosler: Having a truth to share and remaining quiet 00:38:26 Carla Sanders: On my personal page, I am 6 good one. In my biz spaces, 2, or 1. 00:38:39 Alta Felix: Wont share testimonials 00:38:41 Aiyana McKenzie: only share what is safe-- show nature, etc but not self. Be kind and nice no matter what I am feeling. Share the sunshine and rainbows and not the storm 00:38:57 Michelle Marlahan: similar, Carla…. I relate 00:39:00 Annemieke: Stay quiet and in the back ground 00:39:21 AJ Frenzel: Don’t cause trouble. Be polite. Social media & my own writing bores myself. No pics, no depth 00:40:33 Carla Sanders: Ps I went bold on my personal page this week and it was great. People came out of woodwork. 00:42:24 AJ Frenzel: 10 00:42:28 Carla Sanders: 9 00:42:29 Angie O'Neill: 7 00:42:30 Angela Stringhini: 6 00:42:31 Lara Storm: 10 00:42:33 Lauren Piro (she/her): also 10 00:42:33 Annelise Pesa: 7 00:42:33 Rai: 2 00:42:35 Joli Knott: 6 00:42:37 Jen Youngquist: 5 used to be more like a 9 00:42:37 Annemieke: 5 00:42:40 Doris Navarro (she/her): 5 00:42:41 Layne Mosler: 4 00:42:43 Michelle Marlahan: 4 00:42:44 Lisa Avnet: 3 00:42:46 Brenda: 2-3 00:42:51 Alta Felix: inner circle- 1, outer circle 7 00:43:08 Aiyana McKenzie: 10 on imposter-- half a dozen (or more) projects going and none are my true heart's desire. Always feel I am not good enough to put myself ‘out there’ 00:43:12 Angela Stringhini: Others do better than you, you were just lucky before, endless books… 00:43:16 Michelle Marlahan: Always need more education 00:43:21 Jen Youngquist: you aren't that special 00:43:23 Doris Navarro (she/her): ordinary, not good enough 00:43:27 Lara Storm: you’ve always been ordinary 00:43:28 Lisa Avnet: busy body, always got so many irons in the fire 00:43:32 Alta Felix: quote others instead of myself, keeping busy, stacks of books 00:43:33 Angie O'Neill: Quoting others rather than using your own words 00:43:34 Annelise Pesa: More education 00:43:42 Carla Sanders: Distracted by projects that are less than the work I am destined to create. 00:44:02 Annemieke: Keeping busy with side hustles. Just this small town girl 00:44:03 AJ Frenzel: You’re not that special or deep… Spend writing time taking in others’ content. 00:44:52 Carla Sanders: I didn’t used to be like this, but it got that way when it was time to stop fooling around and show tf up. 00:47:24 Rai: 20! The perfectionist... on a scale of 1-10, its a 20!!!! 00:47:27 Angela Stringhini: 8 00:47:27 Angie O'Neill: 7 00:47:27 Doris Navarro (she/her): 8 00:47:28 Sarah MacKay (she/her): 10 00:47:29 Alta Felix: 4 00:47:30 Jen Youngquist: 3 00:47:30 Layne Mosler: 10 00:47:33 Lisa Avnet: 9 00:47:33 Carla Sanders: 6 00:47:33 Joli Knott: 6 00:47:34 Brenda: 5 00:47:35 Annelise Pesa: 6 00:47:37 Lauren Piro (she/her): 7 00:47:40 Annemieke: 9 00:47:44 Michelle Marlahan: 6 00:47:46 AJ Frenzel: 3 to the voice. 10 to the actions/setbacks. 00:47:50 Aiyana McKenzie: Gulp, on a scale of 1-10 I may be a 12 or higher, lol (and not lol) 00:47:50 Lara Storm: 4 00:47:52 Angela Stringhini: You are not good enough, just doing my best, endless projects, notes filled up, so many ideas, an overwhelming amount of content and not putting out…. 00:47:53 Sarah MacKay (she/her): 10 - no way I will be ready to post my curriculum!! 00:47:56 Alta Felix: endless ideas and writings that no one sees 00:48:03 Rai: lots of ideas.... overthinking and not putting them out there 00:48:03 Doris Navarro (she/her): have to work hard and make it all perfect 00:48:09 Brenda: It will never be good enough 00:48:10 Jen Youngquist: endless ideas that never come out right 00:48:11 Annemieke: So much content…unpublished ;) 00:48:17 Lisa Avnet: so much content, half finished, never seen by others 00:48:18 Michelle Marlahan: over polish 00:48:21 Doris Navarro (she/her): feel better if I know I am doing my best 00:48:42 Joli Knott: over polishing and over complicating 00:48:43 Rai: yes to so much content unpubplished 00:49:01 Aiyana McKenzie: Stacks of writings, ideas, partially started projects all 'not good enough’ Over preparing and then never starting because not good enough, etc 00:49:07 Carla Sanders: Perfectionist likes to defer to the imposter. 00:49:16 Sarah MacKay (she/her): #Shitty is Sacred - love that - but it will NEVER work for me! ;~) 00:49:17 Carla Sanders: Relay race. 00:49:21 AJ Frenzel: Google docs and phone notes full of keep worthy ideas and writing - but not good enough to share or overwhelming to let parts through. 00:49:23 Alta Felix: I love that! 00:49:48 Angela Stringhini: I love the hashtag #shitissacred 00:51:08 Sarah MacKay (she/her): Is anyone else a COMBO: fawn, freeze, flight? I don’t relate to fight at all. 00:51:56 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): Though if you don’t relate to one at all….it may be in Shadow!!!!!! 00:53:05 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Joanna - yes, tons of self judgment. And shrink way way way away from overt judges. 00:53:17 Lisa Avnet: 7 00:53:19 Angie O'Neill: 5 00:53:19 Jen Youngquist: 6 00:53:22 Angela Stringhini: 4 00:53:22 Lauren Piro (she/her): 3 00:53:23 Joli Knott: 6 00:53:23 Annelise Pesa: 6 00:53:23 Lara Storm: 3 00:53:24 Annemieke: 6 00:53:29 Sarah MacKay (she/her): 7 00:53:33 Aiyana McKenzie: Judge-- judge others about a 1 to 2. Judge self 8-10 00:53:34 Doris Navarro (she/her): 1 00:53:36 Brenda: 5-6 00:53:37 Layne Mosler: 7 00:53:38 AJ Frenzel: 6 00:53:39 Rai: 4-5 00:53:43 Michelle Marlahan: toward self 7-8 00:53:46 Alta Felix: 5- don't want to put things out that could possibly hurt someone or make me wrong. 00:53:55 Carla Sanders: 7, and I turn it back on myself because how could I be so awful to others. 00:54:00 Rai: me too, the judge is self inner directed 00:54:04 Angela Stringhini: I reject so I won’t be rejected, strong sense of justice but fight for it, and comment on social media like a justice fighter 00:54:08 Jen Youngquist: share little in fear of being wrong 00:54:20 Rai: afraid of being judged and attacked 00:55:42 Doris Navarro (she/her): can you repeat the question please? 00:56:10 Aiyana McKenzie: I hide myself with each of these four patterns. Perfectionist and Imposter would be a good place for me to start looking at 00:56:14 Angela Stringhini: I would like to : The perfectionist and the imposter 00:56:43 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): My pattern is especially sneaky - My perfectionist stays busy creating so much in my programs (my perfectionist actually creates so much!)….that she gets to not have to have time to write that book I want to write! 00:57:08 Aiyana McKenzie: I am most hiding with not being ‘good enough' and believing I have to be far advanced from where I am before I am visible 00:57:08 Angie O'Neill: I think the one I have the most work to still do is with my Good One. In personal relationships more than anything. Not needing or asking of others. Not wanting to be rejected or thought “too much”. 00:57:25 Angela Stringhini: I would love to have your book Joanna! 00:57:30 Angela Stringhini: And read it 00:57:31 Brenda: Fawn and the judge — 00:57:32 Alta Felix: My fear of hurting others keeps me quiet not sharing my full truth for those who actually do need me to share it. 00:57:35 Lisa Avnet: not allowing myself to be seen, not sharing myself on social media, not speaking up in groups, writing that stays half finished, 00:57:40 Rai: taking a break from social media to avoid being visible and feeling bad when what I do share isn't seen or acknowledged. And calling this break noble when its really based in fear 00:57:43 Cara Jones: WHAT IS THE COST OF THIS HIDING IN MY LIFE AND WORK? 00:57:49 Annelise Pesa: Because I am not niching enough and thus I should not ruin my reputation especially on LinkedIn by posting things that are not targeted to my niche, which I still have not defined properly 00:58:22 Angela Stringhini: The cost: not accomplish my soul mission fully and not been seen 00:59:00 Alta Felix: The cost if my financial freedom 00:59:05 Alta Felix: is* 00:59:12 Doris Navarro (she/her): It has cost me a lot financially 00:59:37 Doris Navarro (she/her): It has also cost my joy and freedom 00:59:39 Rai: the cost is self expression and sparking others to do/be the same 01:00:02 Annelise Pesa: I know if I hide my energy goes down , there is a down spiral I feel wasted and self sabotaging, AND I do not bring huge gift and benefits to the corporate world that needs so much human centric values 01:00:06 Angela Stringhini: I love this! 01:00:51 AJ Frenzel: TMJ 01:01:12 Rai: YES, hiding is very expensive 01:05:53 Carla Sanders: 10 Truthings 01:06:00 Carla Sanders: Or 10 True things 01:09:40 Cara Jones: 10 TRUE THINGS….(that might make you cringe to write) 01:09:51 Cara Jones: This is just for you I won’t ask you to share 01:10:35 Angela Stringhini: I did not know it was so hard to find 10 truth things, is that a bad signal or a good one, that I am living my truth… 🤣 01:14:52 Michelle Marlahan: that’s so goooood 01:15:34 Carla Sanders: Brilliant Alta. So good! 01:15:37 Aiyana McKenzie: Wow, Alta, that is awesome! I was looking at truths that are all things I am ashamed of and want to hide. I love shifting this to sharing what I desire. Delicious and powerful! Thank you! 01:15:59 Annelise Pesa: Love that Alta ❤️ 01:16:08 Alta Felix: Thank you, everyone 🙌🏽 01:16:34 Carla Sanders: AJ, that’s what I did! Desire turned into shame and shit. Isn’t that interesting reveal. So I did 10 more 01:16:59 Alta Felix: This is something I think I want to do regularly 01:18:23 Alta Felix: Aiyana- shame uggh- I've been exploring the energy of that word and its impact in my body. 01:18:40 Alta Felix: "the willingness to get it wrong" 01:22:55 Rai: I love that... lean and LEAD from that place. The new piece for me is not just to lean in but the LEAD! 01:23:32 Cara Jones: What is a part of you that has been shamed that can now be harnesses as a superpower in service of you and your work? Ex. Your sexuality, spirituality, your too-much-ness, your big sensitive heart. 01:23:38 Annelise Pesa: Absolutely yes, I resonate with it massively 01:24:00 Alta Felix: That hit me HARD 01:24:03 Cara Jones: I am your….and I want you to know…. 01:24:54 Rai: I am your vulnerable self. I have been both shamed and celebrated for my vulnerability. 01:25:51 Rai: I want you to know it is indeed your superpower. 01:26:44 Michelle Marlahan: I usually call it my “delicate fucking flower” self 01:27:30 Aiyana McKenzie: This is so awesome, Cara. I really appreciate this time (and thank you, Joanna for bringing this to us )! 01:27:47 Angela Stringhini: ❤️ 01:27:55 Annelise Pesa: Thanks so much Cara and Joanna, very precious 01:28:02 Alta Felix: Thank you so much for today, it could not be more perfect or on time! 01:28:23 Angela Stringhini: Cara this is incredible! Gratitude! 01:28:38 Rai: Thank you so much, Cara! 01:28:42 Cara Jones: VISIBLE: https://www.cara-jones.com/the-naked-truth UNTETHER YOUR VOICE: https://www.cara-jones.com/uyv 01:29:43 Michelle Marlahan: And we will get the other prompts? Thank you SO much - this has been incredible. 01:30:12 Carla Sanders: Thank you, Cara. This is fantastic. Thank you Joanna. 01:30:17 Brenda: Thank you Cara! 01:30:22 Lisa Avnet: Thank you Cara, so moved and inspired! 01:30:23 Doris Navarro (she/her): What a gift!!! Thank you so much Cara! 01:30:29 Angela Stringhini: Such a gift indeed! Thank you Joanna and Cara. 01:30:39 Aiyana McKenzie: There are no times available for a discovery call with you, Cara. I just tried to book one. 01:30:39 Layne Mosler: MARVELOUS, Cara. A thousand thanks for this. 01:30:39 Annemieke: Thank you so much Cara! 01:30:44 Angela Stringhini: Thank you all for such a wonderful group 01:30:44 AJ Frenzel: Thank you so much Cara! And Joanna! Amazing and perfect timing, too. My Badass is my Badass. She reminds me that I’m a grown-ass badass and I freaking rock. 01:30:45 Joli Knott: Thank you, Cara--this has been a rich time together today! 01:30:54 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Cara, honored to share this time with you. 01:31:09 Wendy: Thank you so much! 01:31:25 Alta Felix: Thank you!!! 01:31:59 Angela Stringhini: Miss you already Joanna 01:32:02 Rai: Thank you!