00:03:20 Gaia: WAAAT! I live in Asheville 00:03:58 Gaia: any chance I could meet you to say hi? 00:05:12 Gaia: yes 00:05:42 sarah: Can you please remind us of the time of day of the SPECIAL workshop (to be renamed?) 00:06:03 Fanshen Thompson: I keep thinking about moving to asheville. šŸ„° maybe someday! 00:06:22 Lauren Piro (she/her): I want to move to Asheville, too. It's such a great little city! 00:14:15 Carmen Guerrero she/her: Iā€™m not sure i understand what ā€œconsulting" means in this contextā€¦ 00:15:21 Carmen Guerrero she/her: got it! 00:15:26 Gaia: Oh that's my question also, thank you Carmen 00:15:53 Julie Greenberg: What you are explaining helps me to feel so much better about so many experiences I've had with various practitioners where I end up feeling like I come away from the experience questioning if maybe I am not coachable because they haven't really helped me. Now I feel more affirmed through understanding that they may have been failing to trust that I know best what is right for me, etcā€¦ 00:16:34 Julie Greenberg: Sorry for so many words there. 00:18:08 Lisa Avnet: sometimes I offer specific information to help clients normalize a feeling, pattern or experience. 00:19:37 Lauren Piro (she/her): That's so relatable, Natalie! 00:20:02 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Yes, so relatable 00:22:28 Fanshen Thompson: all of this is so relatable. for me that impatience is so resonant.. hate to admit it šŸ™ 00:22:36 Julie Greenberg: I'm noticing that thinking about ways to allow using questioning skills in sessions makes me further consider also allowing spaces for pausing and silence during sessions to serve to strengthen the conversation and the process. Like, allowing moments to pause will support the client in considering their own questions internally, leading to break throughs. 00:25:47 Windy Wile: @Julie power of the pause. Makes total sense ā™„ļø 00:26:36 Heather Newcomb, VWW: Me too, Andrea 00:29:53 Andrea Lee she/her: oh Heather ha :-) 00:31:50 Andrea Lee she/her: no leading questions haha 00:32:38 Gaia: "Masterful Questioning stems from Masterful Listening" 00:33:12 Windy Wile: Donā€™t be attached to the outcomeā€¦. Ugggh lesson for my whole damn life lol 00:33:30 Jana Mariana: @Windy - 100%!! 00:33:57 Carmen Guerrero she/her: I DONT ASK QUESTIONS!!!!! LOL 00:35:24 Julie Greenberg: I'm thinking of an example of a dialogue I was engaged in today where I fully noticed massive assumptions being made. In hindsight, I'm wishing I had leaned upon curiosity and questioning to invite the other parties to explore why they were so certain about the beliefs and judgements they were forming about people they don't even know. 00:39:38 Lori Clemmons: First reaction... but I have to have the expectations of fixing them and their problem or I'm not a good coach. oh yeah. I"m not supposed to fix! Still working on this! 00:43:59 Gaia: wow! that was an excellent paring! 00:49:00 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Ahh, this is so tricky, I want to share my tricks 00:51:58 Natalie Jobity, The Unveiled Way: 7 00:51:58 Julie Greenberg: 5 00:52:03 Fanshen Thompson: 7 00:52:03 Lisa Farr: 7 00:52:03 Doris Navarro: 8 00:52:04 Jana Mariana: 8 00:52:04 Melody Noll: 5 00:52:08 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): 5 00:52:15 Jennifer Gaines: 6 00:52:20 Lisa Avnet: 8 or more 00:52:24 Lauren Piro (she/her): 7-8 00:52:37 Anniina Haaranen: 6 00:53:07 Lisa Farr: sometimes I remember and sometimes I donā€™t 00:53:14 Doris Navarro: Brings me out of the hole of victimhood 00:53:15 Natalie Jobity, The Unveiled Way: huge! I have the agency to make out of the box choices 01:00:09 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Great question, Anniina, thanks for asking 01:03:10 Gaia: can u give an eg of Lovingly Bold Joanna? 01:05:29 Julie Greenberg: I feel like the first example of phrasing the question allows the client a little more wiggle room for resisting or avoiding looking at the question... 01:07:05 Natalie Jobity, The Unveiled Way: same--wordy as heck 01:07:31 Julie Greenberg: I definitely need help with this, lol 01:19:07 Lauren Piro (she/her): I had a coach who would ask herself aloud, "How do I want to phrase this?" I love that it served her without asking for permission to pause. 01:20:59 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Aaaah, thank you for this piece about co-regulating 01:21:26 Julie Greenberg: What you've just said is a big part of why I'm aware that I have so valued your trainings. The slowing down. The way that you speak. I feel like it really supports the integration of what you are teaching through modeling. 01:21:56 Doris Navarro: I so agree, Julie! 01:25:08 Melody Noll: Concision. 01:25:10 Doris Navarro: Incorporate their values in the questions 01:25:24 Jennifer Gaines: I need to slow down and make fewer assumptions. 01:25:44 Doris Navarro: Using metaphors they can relate to 01:25:44 Carmen Guerrero she/her: seducing clients curiosity nourishes the relationship in richer ways for growth and healing 01:25:46 Heather Newcomb, VWW: Philosophy of choice is BIG for me 01:25:51 Natalie Jobity, The Unveiled Way: Pacing. If I slow down I'm modeling being vs. doing. And to watch out for my "impatience" with outcomes 01:25:55 Jana Mariana: Find the opportunity to be less consultative or when I am mor ein consultative mode, find ways to bring open-ended questions into the session 01:26:07 sarah: Getting back to the choice we have is so elemental. I have learned these concepts, and I see my need to revisit them often. 01:26:28 Gaia: I want to work on ways to expand my vocabulary and connected to great concepts. 01:26:34 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): I want to practice being patient and trust the process, give more space, slow down 01:26:54 sarah: Iā€™m sad to leave even these last three minutes...but have to go. 01:27:14 Doris Navarro: Always keep human nature in mind when asking questions to avoid building resistance 01:28:06 Windy Wile: Letting go of the outcome 01:28:17 Lisa Avnet: Loving having more of structure and principles for those times when I'm not feeling the flow of good questions arising. 01:28:54 Gaia: i thought it was really powerful to be aware of ones attachment to outcomes