00:00:34 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Hi! 00:00:44 Nic H: Hi :) 00:06:41 Vlada Tomova: Thank you, Joanna! 00:07:18 Anniina: Hi all! I loved loved loved that small moment of tuning in and landing here together, thank you ❤️ 00:33:25 Anniina: What would you call a bad attitude? 00:34:04 Anniina: Yes 00:35:44 Jennifer Kittredge: @angie I was thinking the same thing!! lol 00:36:10 Windy Wile: Same! Lol 00:36:31 Vlada Tomova: Yep . Me too 🙂 00:36:35 Doris Navarro (she/her): I can totally relate to that! It's a big turn off for me. 00:36:55 Vessica Lightheart: How much resistance take skill so notice 00:38:54 Jennifer Kittredge: procrastination 00:38:56 Vessica Lightheart: Procrastination…. 00:39:10 Kim Davies: over scheduling 00:39:16 Kelsey: procrastination and confusion 00:39:17 Angie: • Procrastination • Victim mentality  • Not getting my homework done on time  • Constant overwhelm 00:39:23 Vlada Tomova: How to desipher when someone is in resistance and to keep working with the, or when to decide that someone is not. Good fit for you? 00:39:28 Doris Navarro (she/her): Feeling overwhelmed 00:39:46 Julie Greenberg: falling prey to the belief that my clients are smarter and healthier than I am; so… imposter syndrome. 00:40:01 Nicole Villegas: noticing I'm getting "stuck" on making x decision and that getting in the way of flow forward 00:40:09 Vessica Lightheart: I do that too!! 00:40:23 Lori Clemmons: Not doing the work; not prioritizing it even though I have what appears to be “good” reasons 00:40:55 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Procrastination, overwhelm, annoyance at other beings in my life 00:41:35 Dottie Lamoureux: Confusion and imposter syndrome. 00:42:40 Vlada Tomova: @Vessica - I was thinking precisely about that balance! Freeze state (perhaps adrenal fatigue) vs just procrastination 00:45:56 Vlada Tomova: @Vessica - thank you for verbalizing this! 00:45:57 Vessica Lightheart: Yes, thank you Vlada for this awareness as well.. 00:47:41 Vessica Lightheart: Adrenal fatigue… 💛 00:49:14 Julie Greenberg: So helpful. Thank you for this reminder. I had this come up a bit in conversation with a woman who is stepping in to work with me this weekend. I feel like I navigated the dynamic well; appropriately. And in a way that really honored exactly what you are saying. 00:49:24 Vlada Tomova: I have been struggling with freeze response and adrenal fatigue and being trauma re-affected on/off - becoming aware of it only in past months 💛 00:50:49 Nikki Finucan: What if I only just realised I wasn't ready or willing to move past my resistance? 😳 00:55:13 Vlada Tomova: @Heather <3 celebrating you! 00:55:31 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Nikki, I am sitting with the same thing now. 00:55:43 Vessica Lightheart: So grateful for your 12th time! Heather- thank you so much for the work you are doing 💛 00:55:57 Nikki Finucan: @heather ❤️ 00:56:40 Heather Newcomb she/her: Feeling the love and support. Thanks all <3 00:56:45 Nicole Villegas: I felt more resistance/self protection 00:57:09 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): I feel disrespected when someone is trying to push me past it. 00:57:21 Vlada Tomova: Great disappointment, feeling excluded from the community 00:57:22 Kelsey: A deep distrust developed 00:57:26 Dottie Lamoureux: Resentment, anger. 00:57:40 Vessica Lightheart: @Nikki @Anita… I wondering the same thing 💫 00:58:01 Julie Greenberg: I find it exacerbates my already pervasive tendency to feel misunderstood. 00:58:27 Nikki Finucan: @Vessica @Anita it's like someone just shone the giant interrogation light into my office space! 00:59:08 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Vessica, the same, pushing my partner. 00:59:46 Julie Greenberg: @Vessica… I so feel this. I’m so grateful for my learning to recognize that my husband is simply not motivated or wired in this way. It’s felt really freeing and our marriage feels lighter since I’ve let go of “needing” him to want to grow. 01:00:51 Vlada Tomova: I have pushed a lot on my partners in relationships - and I can even see it in a substantial way with someone, who is dedicated to personal growth! 01:01:51 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Hahah, Anniina, you are describing it so well, I am the same so often 01:03:15 Julie Greenberg: your hand motion a moment ago, Joanna, just reminded me of the wording for an offer I’ve been crafting in which I say, “…dancing with the shadow, mysteries, and…” 01:03:37 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Sometimes resistance goes hand in hand with divine timing... 01:05:44 Vessica Lightheart: @Anita! Yes💫 01:09:38 Julie Greenberg: that feels simultaneously really good and really challenging. 01:09:54 Vlada Tomova: This feels giant! 01:15:16 Angie: Beautiful Julie - great reminders to yourself and the rest of us. Riding waves and observing the feelings is hard stuff in the eye of the hurricane. 01:15:26 Vessica Lightheart: Love this - curiosity.. so much better than I have experienced from a coach when I had resistance… I felt shamed for having resistance..which really tainted the container and I stopped showing up for any calls with her.. and I had invested a lot, and there was no way I could end the agreement..and she wasn’t open to feedback. 01:16:41 Doris Navarro (she/her): How do you know the resistance isn't personal, meaning, the client is resisting the coach? What do we do if the client is resistant to the coach herself for whatever reason? 01:22:11 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Yes 01:22:23 Anniina: Haha this resonates, "who's that person..." :D 01:22:29 Vessica Lightheart: Im a bit confused.. 01:22:46 Fanshen Thompson: defensiveness 01:22:48 Jennifer Kittredge: I become quiet and go within. I don’t want to talk to anyone 01:23:10 Windy Wile: Anger or rage 01:23:10 Heather Newcomb she/her: Get them before they get me 01:23:14 Nikki Finucan: All or nothing or ver black & white 01:23:17 Julie Greenberg: I tend to shut down and feel really defeated or defeatist. 01:23:26 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Joanna - I am laughing hysterically at your Chagall-like description of yourself even though it’s a painful reminder of my own reactions in years past. In fact, my daughter once drew me floating over the family with a stressed look on one side of my face and a Buddha image on the other. So relating… 01:23:29 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): With partner I become a victim-bitch, with others I just want to run away and deal with emotions on my own 01:23:30 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): I use the “I’m all alone” line - and isolate in ways that make me feel that much more alone 01:24:18 Kelly Lubeck (she/her): Sarah, I love that your daughter picked up on it and felt safe enough to depict it. Wow! 01:24:59 Windy Wile: Ooooooo Anita SAME 01:24:59 Vlada Tomova: I become quiet .. I make myself smaller 01:25:40 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): Haha, Sarah, I drew myself like this 😄 01:26:17 Doris Navarro (she/her): Thank you! 01:26:44 Anniina: I'm defending, stepping into victimhood and leaving myself alone even though physically I want to always "sort things out" immediately with people (fear of being left alone), I also want to be right and I think I know better 01:28:24 Windy Wile: Are there worksheets for the resistance archetypes? The ones I got were about negative thought patterns