00:04:26 Julie Greenberg: It’s been Wednesdays at 12:30. 00:04:27 Sarah MacKay (she/her): Small Group - Wednesday at 1:30pm PT 00:07:05 Lauren Piro (she/her): What time is the bonus call? 00:07:21 Lauren Piro (she/her): Thanks! 00:22:01 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Lauren - the BONUS call is Thursday (12/15) 3-4:30pm EST. At least that’s my understanding. 00:22:53 Bryn Bowersock: OMG - I remember this!! LOL!! 00:23:43 Julie Greenberg: So good! 00:37:03 Annemieke: I love the idea of befriending. In the past I’ve always seen fear as something to fight through. Even though I learned different ways in the last years, the interesting thing is that fear disguises itself and I just realize it was fear when I’m on the other end of it. Love this conversation around fear today :) 00:37:51 Lisa Farr: Thank you Fanshen for sharing your insights about fear - great to be talking about this topic 00:37:56 KelseyArsvold: Yes I am really wondering how we actually can hold a client (or ourselves) through fear without shutting down, because I find that even though I am very aware of fear and resistance when it comes up, I can still have an automatic shut down, like a trauma response I haven't yet found a way around. 00:38:47 Bryn Bowersock: When I have felt fear in the past shame and embarrassment comes after. 00:40:02 Kim Davies: I feel dread and then it can just put a dark cloud over me until that feared event happens. Then fear doesn’t come true! 00:41:05 Julie Greenberg: In more recent years, like post kid launch… so the past 11 years or so, I find I am better at remaining grounded in the face of fear. I like to lean on my dad’s words, “I never worry, and I never hurry.” And this reminds me to slow down, check in with myself, get curious… what am I being asked to learn. How am I being invited to grow. And then I usually shift into solution mode. How can I move through this fear and toward my desired outcome? And what is really true here? 00:46:51 Julie Greenberg: I believe safety and security is a state of mind and an inside job. 00:49:29 Lisa Farr: Does our mind create the illusion of safety? 00:49:45 Julie Greenberg: What I’m hearing is that you are/we are normalizing the broad expanse of our human experience and in so doing with our clients we create safety. 00:51:13 Julie Greenberg: My dad always said, “nothing is certain except that nothing is certain.” This has helped me in not catastrophizing, but rather meeting what is to the best of my ability in the moment. 00:53:55 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Joanna - It feels like there’s a dialectical tension - as coaches we are creating safety in order to look at fear. 00:54:17 Sarah MacKay (she/her): I bungled this last week… 00:57:03 Julie Greenberg: OMG Joanna! Same!!! 00:58:05 Anita Puksic (anitapuksic.com): My fear is that I am so annoying, everyone thinks I am annoying, lol 00:58:26 Fanshen Thompson: Same, Anita! 00:58:59 Bryn Bowersock: good one Joanna! 01:00:55 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Windy - I am constantly referring to the ZOMBIE apocalypse! It really helps me to laugh at my fears. Like, will there be enough coffee available? 01:03:22 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @ It makes tons of sense! 01:11:02 Caroline Holke: is fear of being visible more with women? 01:13:58 Julie Greenberg: Would you say that most of our fears are tied up in our self worth? 01:23:13 Lisa Farr: thank you Bryn, the fear of being seen and having to defend ourselves - that resonates with me too! 01:24:27 Bryn Bowersock: ❤️ 01:26:25 Jennifer Gaines: Having to do with the safety concept we discussed earlier, I have a fear of the unknown. I'd sometimes rather stay in a less than ideal situation than to risk moving into something I haven't experienced before. 01:28:35 Lisa Farr: I'm going to be looking out for my fears to become more aware rather than ignoring it 01:28:59 Windy Wile: Our ego’s like to be comfortable was a good one 01:30:28 Michelle Marlahan: One book from college I think of often is The Gift of Fear. Reminds me of some of this… 01:30:38 Julie Greenberg: Fear is normal. It shows up in many ways. Give it space and embrace the process of discovering what we can learn from it. Fear is false evidence appearing real. Safety is an inside job. And once we accept that, we can transform our fear. 01:31:09 Sarah MacKay (she/her): Take away - Heart pounds - it’s in the body - and it WILL try to disguise itself or mask itself. Learning what our masks are (victim, expert, etc) is empowering. 01:31:48 Sarah MacKay (she/her): @Joanna - the last thing you said is ‘dialectical tension” - fear and excitement can live together. 01:31:55 Lisa Farr: Thank you Joanna, that was a fabulous call 01:31:56 Michelle Marlahan: Thank you so much