00:13:24 Victoria Cali: growth comes from discomfort and the container having the resiliency to hold that and normalize it 00:13:41 jodigolda: I appreciate the permission to be lightly trigger-friendly. 00:13:52 Amy G: Getting (even more) comfortable with discomfort, all inclusive, my own and others. Yes to this growth edge! 00:13:54 Nisha Mody (she/her): I really like thinking about consulting as a way to create awareness and used as a coaching tool. 00:13:58 Juniper | Alchemessence: The parallels between physical and emotional health - both require building tolerance to be with discomfort in order to grow 00:14:13 jodigolda: Reacted to "I really like thinki..." with ❤️ 00:14:30 Helen Wrack-Adams: It’s ok to misstep or say the wrong thing. What matters most is how we take accountability and course correct from a place of love and integrity. 00:14:34 Sheila Wolff: it helps to hear that it's okay to make mistakes! It's not the end of the world or the coaching relationship 00:14:52 jodigolda: Reacted to "It’s ok to misstep o..." with ❤️ 00:14:52 Victoria Cali: would like to dive into consulting as a skill vs being the primary purpose of the relationship.... 00:14:59 Jen Gens: It makes us inspire and own the work.. we have to do the work in order to be a better space holder… that’s leadership. Like tuning a guitar string. 00:15:43 Rekel Kamigaki: It’s reassuring to hear that I’m addition to the repair, that there is/can be growth , following the rupture 00:15:57 Maria Chowdhury: I am seeing how I can be a coach. In the other sessions, I was a little shut down by not having filters, not consulting and always wanting to be in a relationship of just asking them what they want and feel. This helps me show up as myself, experience and love. 00:28:02 Victoria Cali: The sacred pause.... 00:30:27 Jen Gens: Bring balance 00:30:40 Jen Gens: Love that sacred pause! 😄 00:31:30 Jen Gens: And the truth is they most often want to be held! 00:33:16 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Love the idea of acknowledging, feel like it is validation to the client or that part of them 00:41:32 Bruce | artichokedove.com: For me it is important to acknowledge something before there is any chance of acceptance 00:50:34 Juniper | Alchemessence: I once had a prospective client give me a litany of problems she was dealing with, and when I acknowledged with “That sounds like a lot”, she responded with, “Well now I feel like you think there’s no hope for me.” She clearly had mental issues I’m not trained to work with (and had fired a few therapists already) but I do wonder if I would have said “It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot” - just a little tweak - would have made a difference. 00:51:47 Maria Chowdhury: Reacted to "I once had a prospec..." with ❤️ 00:51:53 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "I once had a prospec..." with ❤️ 00:53:55 Lisa Archer: Wow, that felt like a tight feeling in my throat, but being surrounded by a calming white light at the same time 01:02:42 Mallory Heartsong: I would love to hear the Hebrew for “From Strength to strength,” if you are able to share it, Joanna. 01:03:54 Mallory Heartsong: Thank you <3 01:04:58 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Yes , I have a client that it has taken a long time to feel safe in celebration 01:11:04 Helen Wrack-Adams: is there another way to contemplate the question if you can’t recall your childhood in specifics or details? 01:11:45 Lisa Archer: I feel like my parents celebrated me for achievements in a supportive way, yet I experienced it as pressure to continue to have to do well. 01:13:27 Helen Wrack-Adams: I feel that perhaps I was congratulated but not celebrated. 01:13:54 Nisha Mody (she/her): I was celebrated by my family of origin, but it was mostly about traditional milestones (academic, jobs, marriage, etc). 01:14:06 Danielle: It may be a filter of mine, but as I reflect on these questions, it feels like there’s a significant distinction between being celebrated for achieving/doing vs for the person you are/your inner commitment, work, essence, etc. This feels very connected to how praise can be unhelpful and actually harmful for children if it’s just about the end product/how we feel about what they’ve done (“good job” vs. “I see how hard you worked on that, with such care”) 01:14:38 Sheila Wolff: also an undercurrent of parent's taking credit for/identifying with my achievements 01:14:40 Victoria Cali: So much based on competition and comparison... 01:14:44 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "It may be a filter o..." with 💯 01:14:45 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "It may be a filter o..." with ❤️ 01:14:58 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "So much based on com..." with 🙏🏾 01:15:03 Mallory Heartsong: My family found reasons to celebrate little things as well as achievements and birthdays and whatever we felt was worth celebrating, and there was a profound unconditional love for one another and love of life - and I - finding reasons to come together and create joy… know some of it was because of my mother’s illness, so there was a bittersweetness to it in soaking up moments together without taking them for granted. I know some of it came from her childhood too where her mother would tell her siblings and her that she “loved these 2 siblings” the most and compared them and pitted them against one another. I’m so glad my parents were able to rewire their way of celebrating in our family. 01:15:45 Danielle: Reacted to "My family found reas..." with ❤️ 01:16:22 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Very little acknowledgement around celebration and when it did happen it was muffled, hard to allow for celebration today and allow for it....but getting better at receiving it 01:16:47 Lisa Archer: When I got a 2:1 for my first degree my older brother commented "oh so you didn't get a first then". … So I got a first for my second degree 01:16:50 Maria Chowdhury: Reacted to "My family found reas..." with ❤️ 01:17:56 Lisa Archer: Depends on my perception of the sincerity 01:20:27 Bruce | artichokedove.com: I feel like I have over compensated with celebration and compliments with my children to compensate for lack of in my life.....working on finding that balance :) 01:22:17 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "I feel like I have o..." with ❤️ 01:25:30 Bruce | artichokedove.com: I am forever an optimist and need to check that filter 01:25:40 jodigolda: Reacted to "I am forever an opti..." with ❤️ 01:27:10 jodigolda: Reacted to "Depends on my percep..." with ❤️ 01:29:23 Jen Gens: LOVE 01:31:29 Victoria Cali: Yes Helen !! 01:31:57 Danielle: Mmmm, yay Helen! 01:32:06 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Yesssss 01:36:07 Cathy Norris: This discussion about celebrating oneself has given me an Aha with a client I’m meeting with today. (And ahas for myself :-) 01:36:16 Victoria Cali: Much luck with your procedure Joanna... speedy recovery ! 01:36:23 jodigolda: Blessings and prayers for your surgery 01:36:25 Jen Gens: Good luck Joanna!