00:05:41 Rosa Zubizarreta: I did not receive an email yet about requesting a parter… I would very much like a partner. 00:07:47 Jen Gens: Ah sorry I was a couple min late, what calls is Joanna talking about? 00:09:28 Maria Chowdhury: When do they start? 00:10:21 Jen Medrick: If we want to participate and know that we won't be able to attend a couple of them, can we still join? 00:10:51 Jen Medrick: Replying to "If we want to partic..." That answered that. 00:11:05 Jen Gens: Are the small group different than the buddy? 00:17:18 Juniper | Alchemessence: Thank you for sharing - I never want to take over a client’s time with my own anecdotes and experiences, but I love having this way of giving space for where my personal shares might be appropriate. 00:18:09 Jessica Dawson: Oooo thank you for that nuance and languaging Joanna 00:29:30 Jen Medrick: Oh my gosh, yes! I love this so much. Both with clients and in my own growth, have often been in a place of letting go, deep dreaming, digesting, even grieving. And that needs to be presenced first! 00:29:51 Kristin Jensen: I love this so much. It’s so honoring to human rhythms. 00:30:05 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "I love this so much...." with 💜 00:30:10 Katherine: Love the seasonal approach 00:30:28 Jen Gens: So good. “Know where they’re at” is so much more efficient too 00:30:34 Agnes: I love this Joanna, this is one of the most important aspects to be aware of! 00:30:35 Katherine: I find in myself how much I need rest and it can be hard to take or ask for that when we are such a spring summer culture 00:30:41 Kristin Jensen: What kind of questions could we ask to determine what seasonal stage they’re in 00:30:43 Kristin Jensen: ? 00:30:47 Sharon Terzza: Seasonal stuff is so valuable and important 00:31:02 Jennifer Malamas: What is the best way to check in with the new client around where they are in the seasons at the outset? They may not even be aware of it when starting coaching 00:31:26 Dawn Urquhart: It really respects that someone may have goals but needs help clearing the path ahead- the rhythms of life. Or cycles of change, moon, development etc 🥰 00:33:28 Amy G: I feel that it somehow relates honouring client consent too, and not jumping into 'I know what's best' or 'we can do this (action oriented) that can pop up and weave into that too... respect and honour the season. So resonant. Yes! 00:37:45 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "I feel that it someh..." with 👍🏼 00:39:50 Jen Gens: Authentic Enrollment Conversations Workshop https://s3-us-west-2.amazonaws.com/aecworkshopfebruary2018/AECWorkshopFebruary2018.mp3 00:40:11 jodigolda: Reacted to "I feel that it someh..." with ❤️ 00:49:29 Kavita Rani Arora: I feel terribly about how impatient I used to be! I’ve worked on it a lot, but more work is needed still. My own physical challenges have taught me so much empathy for physical weakness and fatigue. Any suggestions for forgiving myself for past transgressions? 00:52:42 Katherine: How do you balance curiosity and not go into nosiness? 00:54:25 jodigolda: I can see where unchecked filters can lead to the client not feeling seen, heard, or loved. 00:54:27 Nisha Mody (she/her): Gossipy haha 00:55:44 Mika Nakamura: Even with the awareness of a given filter we have, being 'very' aware, open, and remaining curious about your client would help prevent you from making assumptions based on the filter that would help relate and better understand a client's situation. 00:56:04 Jaya Chelani: Reacted to "Even with the awaren..." with ❤️ 00:59:58 Kristin Jensen: Neurotypical is another privilege 01:00:03 Maria Chowdhury: Are you saying privilege is the “Majority” so it seams “Normal”? 01:00:05 jodigolda: Neurotypical 01:00:21 Agnes: Kim Kardasian: in covid lock-down: "we`re all in this together" :) 01:02:33 Jessica Walker: There are some things where I have privilege…..and some things where I don’t. 01:02:36 Dawn Urquhart: How do you acknowledge w out falling into stereotypes etc 01:07:09 Mika Nakamura: I'd say the definition or 'perception' of 'privileges' can differ from a person to person. 01:09:39 Nisha Mody (she/her): Some others to consider are gender (cisgender/transgender”, class, access to a car, body type, skin color (colorism), sexuality, ability, having a partner who contributes to your income, inheritance, class/tax bracket, supportive caregivers, owning vs renting home. 01:10:18 Nisha Mody (she/her): Replying to "Some others to consi..." Also if you are a caregiver for someone else (child, parent, friend, etc) 01:11:08 Jaya Chelani: Thank you Maria for calling it out ...the word race made my heart pound for some reason 🙂 01:13:00 Juniper | Alchemessence: I appreciate hearing that we don’t have to share the same filter in order to work with clients. I’ve often worried about this and am grateful to keep exploring how to work with truly diverse life experiences. 01:14:49 Juniper | Alchemessence: I’d love even more discussion around where we cross over from acknowledging our own filters and othering our clients. 01:14:55 Kristin Jensen: That’s beautiful, Rosa 01:15:52 Jen Medrick: I feel like so much of this comes back to curiosity and a willingness to genuinely inquire and be with someone else's experience. 01:16:09 Cathy Norris: Thank you Rosa, I like the physical image of where each of us is standing based on our experiences. I think that will help me remember to think about my filters with others. 01:17:25 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Thank you Rosa, I li..." with 💕 01:18:00 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "That’s beautiful, Ro..." Thank you, Kristin… 01:20:56 Jaya Chelani: thanks for these words Joanna, appreciate it 01:22:03 Rosa Zubizarreta: My own trauma background 01:22:15 Nisha Mody (she/her): I’m a child of immigrants so it helps when I’m talking to other children of immigrants 01:22:16 Katie Vason: adhd 01:22:16 Kristin Jensen: My experience with trauma and being neurodivergent 01:22:25 Katherine: I have a grief filter. Believing there’s more going on under the surface 01:22:30 Lara Wilde: Health struggles, family history, divorce 01:22:31 Kristin Jensen: Also coming from a high demand religious background 01:22:36 Jen Gens: Sexual assault.. hospitalization . . . daughter of an immigrant . . . 01:22:39 Maria Chowdhury: Having long hard births, and miscarriages with breastfeeding problems. Helps me good midwife and herbalist that people can relate too 01:22:39 Jaya Chelani: adhd , my own trauma 01:22:44 Juniper | Alchemessence: Multiple dark nights of the soul and existential questioning, understanding complete loss of what you’ve formally turned to for support 01:23:00 Nisha Mody (she/her): I used to be a speech therapist and that helps me with different ways to understand the different ways others communicate 01:23:00 jodigolda: Being in complete mystery, the in between and not knowing … also, miscarriage, and depression 01:23:09 iPhone: Being born and raised in Hawaii where it’s very multicultural and the indigenous culture is alive and well 01:23:13 Jessica Walker: my experiences with divorce, abusive marriage, miscarriage, obesity, growing up in a poor part of thecountry 01:23:14 Mika Nakamura: Caregiving to a child with disabilities 01:23:48 Lara Wilde: The seasons of life like you mentioned earlier. 01:23:55 Kristin Jensen: growing up with two parents 01:24:25 Agnes: sometimes there might be a thin line between pointing to privileges and advantages and disadvantages and sliding into excuses ..How to know the best way to move around that?. 01:24:26 Juniper | Alchemessence: Deep relationship with nature - most clients find me because they love nature, but it’s good to remember that there can also be very different background experiences with the natural world 01:24:26 jodigolda: Single, free, no tethers 01:24:39 Jen Medrick: Reacted to "Deep relationship wi..." with ❤️ 01:24:40 Jen Gens: Trauma informed 01:24:56 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "Single, free, no tet..." with 👍🏾 01:24:59 Nisha Mody (she/her): Replying to "Single, free, no tet..." same 01:25:09 Jen Gens: ] 01:26:58 Jennifer Malamas: Unfortunately I have to go a few minutes early; thank you and have a great week 01:27:43 Dewi Maile Lim - @alohadev: Replying to "Single, free, no tet..." I have these too 01:30:45 Nisha Mody (she/her): I’m so much more conscious about what my filters might be. I also LOVED the metaphor of the seasons for where people are and I’m going to think about that and watch the sales conversation training/ 01:30:49 Kristin Jensen: Taking away activating the highest empathy. And some ways to address privilege in a kind and respectful way. 01:31:21 Jaya Chelani: my take away is the conscious awareness of my filters 01:31:39 Dewi Maile Lim - @alohadev: Filters aren’t “bad”. They can be superpowers. The thing that’s most important is that I am AWARE of my filters and put mySelf in my client’s shoes, the best I can 01:31:42 jodigolda: I like the idea of naming to a client, “this may be coming from my own filter / bias …" 01:31:49 Jen Medrick: Reacted to "Filters aren’t “bad”..." with ❤️ 01:31:56 Susan: Reacted to "I like the idea of n..." with 👍 01:32:18 Dewi Maile Lim - @alohadev: Reacted to "I like the idea of n..." with 👍 01:32:26 Juniper | Alchemessence: Replying to "I like the idea of n..." Same 🙂 01:32:28 Jessica Dawson: Lots of things. But one being it's not just making the assumption that something is easy for someone or not such a big deal for them because it's not for us, but also not assuming something is hard for them because it was for us or we imagine it would be. 01:32:31 Amy G: My takeaway is about the nuance, depth and complexity of filters and privilege. It's almost never ending, and that's ok! Appreciating the awareness check with all of this! I'd also like myself to hold them in neutrality. 01:32:33 Katie Vason: my awareness of my filers and assumptions is an ongoing practice, especially where they might show in smaller more nuanced ways 01:32:52 Juniper | Alchemessence: Reacted to "My takeaway is about..." with ❤️