00:04:49 Katherine: I’m signing off on video zoom and signing back in with my phone - 518-821-5283 00:19:58 Marla Bollak: i think i only saw a quiz in the first(?) session. 00:21:52 Sheila Wolff: Replying to "i think i only saw a..." I think the second one can be found in the area of the listening practicum 00:22:12 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "I think the second o..." with ❤️ 00:23:32 Jennifer: Sorry what is rescheduled for tomorrow? 00:36:34 Marla Bollak: Reacted to "I think the second o..." with 👍🏼 00:37:07 Marla Bollak: Replying to "i think i only saw a..." thank you, sheila. i guess they’re not in every one, either. 00:44:18 Jennifer: That the client may get angry 00:44:29 Jaya Chelani: Hurting the client 00:44:40 Marla Bollak: my main concern would be that it set them back in some way, 00:44:45 Tracey Brown: That I might hurt the client's feelings 00:44:48 Dawn: Worried about anger 00:44:51 Juniper | Alchemessence: That they’ll blame me and not want to work together anymore 00:44:52 Jessica Walker: potentially stepping outside my lane as a health coach 00:45:07 Pamela Shrock: Might make them feel bad, i might be wrong, 00:45:13 Kavita Rani Arora: That they will project onto me instead of becoming aware 00:45:19 Susan Hagan: That it will cause strain and tension in our relationship. 00:45:21 Victoria Cali: not allowing them to get there themselves... rushing it 00:45:31 Magick: Fear that I’m not sharing in a way they can hear - I’ve been told that I can be direct (and have seen the way it can impact someone) - working on this is a BIG reason I joined this program! 00:45:32 Amy G: The person's reaction - anger was the first fear that came up. 00:45:39 Maria Chowdhury: They will not come back and blame me for the issue and they stay stuck in the pattern 00:46:05 Jessica Dawson: Saying the right / wrong thing. Finding the words to say what I need to say. Putting them off track. 00:46:23 Magick: NEVER EVER EVER in my family 00:46:24 Jessica Walker: in my family, we were not allowed to have feelings that weren’t “happy” 00:46:24 Marla Bollak: i don’t understand this question. 00:46:33 Jennifer: Did not feel supportive… or consistent 00:46:43 Victoria Cali: keep calm carry on 00:46:45 Kavita Rani Arora: My family was like Jessica’s 00:46:52 Kavita Rani Arora: Reacted to "in my family, we wer..." with 👍 00:46:58 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Never......everything is fine here, (after the tornado destroyed the house) 00:47:00 Jessica Dawson: Truth was quickly shut down 00:47:02 Kavita Rani Arora: Replying to "in my family, we wer..." Mine too! 00:47:02 Dawn: My family had difficulty with truth - lots of while lies were told to make people feel better (or how family thought others wanted to feel!) 00:47:11 Jessica Walker: Reacted to "My family was like J..." with 🤗 00:47:14 Jessica Dawson: Or it was shared angry in moments of outburst or not at all 00:47:15 Mika Nakamura: not supportive - often quite harshly. 00:47:16 Juniper | Alchemessence: Mostly only when invited, and very delicately - roundabout ways, focus was mostly on maintaining kindness 00:47:20 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "NEVER EVER EVER in m..." Me too… 00:47:21 johanna lieberman: was told I was too sensitive 00:47:21 Jaya Chelani: My parents truths were forced on me and I was expected to accept them without questioning 00:47:41 Agnes: KINDLY, BUT STRICTLY 00:47:50 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "Or it was shared ang..." Yes me too… 00:47:56 Jaya Chelani: Never 00:47:59 Jennifer: Yes 00:48:04 Marla Bollak: hard no 00:48:07 Susan Hagan: Shared sometimes. Sometimes in parentally "loving" ways that still felt condescending or patronizing. 00:48:13 Kristin Jensen: I can’t remember 00:48:15 Jennifer: Helps create deeper trust 00:48:27 Victoria Cali: So scared to trust it was not judgement... 00:48:28 Rekel Kamigaki: Yes, by trusted mentors or a school teacher / counselor 00:48:32 Sheila Wolff: Hard truths were usually hidden from me 00:48:34 Jessica Walker: yes…my husband is good at this. he is my person 00:48:40 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Yes, I needed to be ready to hear it though 00:49:11 Dawn: Truths hidden, and when I tried to share my truth was judged harshly 00:49:12 Jessica Dawson: I imagine I would be more receptive to it 00:49:12 Jen Medrick: Allowed me to feel impact and know that I mattered 00:49:53 Mika Nakamura: depends on how it's presented/posed. 00:49:53 Sheila Wolff: I get super defensive...always working on this 00:49:53 johanna lieberman: it very much depends on how the truth is delivered 00:49:58 Agnes: depends... who says it and how 00:50:03 Jen Medrick: Reacted to "it very much depends..." with ❤️ 00:50:12 Kavita Rani Arora: Depends on the day/my emotional state and how it is delivered! 00:50:14 Jessica Walker: my first reaction used to be run for the hills…..now I need to sit with it and take some time to absorb 00:50:15 Victoria Cali: gotten easier with time, but really have to clear the space to hear it 00:50:16 Alexandra Breeze: I want to work through it quickly - with a fix it mindset 00:50:16 Magick: It depends on the container I’m in and how resourced I am in the moment 00:50:17 Agnes: I tend to check out, retreat and then think about it 00:50:21 Rekel Kamigaki: Varies my mood and how open I'm feeling to outside information. 00:50:26 Juniper | Alchemessence: Sometimes it feels like what I already know and is helpful, sometimes need to go be quiet and do my own integration on own timeline 00:50:29 Susan Engel: resistance and then consideration 00:50:35 Jennifer: Def depends on how it is delivered. . And yes to my energy. I have to really breathe through it and ground. . And sometimes shake afterwards. 00:50:36 johanna lieberman: if lovingly, I aoorecuate it 00:50:43 Jennifer: I feel myself shaking 00:50:44 Susan Hagan: I often feel defensive and self-judgemental at first, though I usually catch that before expressing it verbally. 00:50:48 Rosa Zubizarreta: Gotten much better at it over the years… used to feel crushed… now it’s more like, huh… take it into consideration, maybe it’s relevant, maybe it’s just projection… 00:50:51 Marla Bollak: i evaluate other people’s opinions of me, regardless of how they deliver it. my direct response to them varies, depending upon their delivery. 00:50:55 Jaya Chelani: depends if I agree with that truth ..if I do then I take actions to improve the situation 00:50:58 Maria Chowdhury: Initially, I’m hurt and defensive then after I reflect I’m able to open and receive it. Often those are powerful breakthroughs and lead to changes in my life. 00:51:02 Juniper | Alchemessence: Feels like shame can take over easily here 00:51:02 Jen Medrick: I often seek to really understand. Sometimes I have to go away to integrate. 00:51:04 Dawn: I’m sensitive if harsh truth telling but can take space and come back to talk 00:51:43 Jennifer: I’ve been practicing NVC w my dad lately. . 00:51:46 Jessica Walker: I try to be as SOFT as possible…. 00:51:49 Susan Hagan: I've had the experience of them not being able to actually hear what I'm trying to say, gently. 00:51:51 johanna lieberman: Again, it depends on how I deliver the truth 00:51:51 Jennifer: And It’s going well 00:53:23 johanna lieberman: Considering the position of the client, friend or family member. And prefacing it with this is MY perception and it is up to them to receive or how to receive the truth. And timing is key. 00:55:51 Juniper | Alchemessence: Beautifully said Danielle! Thank you for sharing. 00:57:10 Dawn: Reacted to "Beautifully said Dan..." with 💗 01:00:12 Maria Chowdhury: I’m noticing sometimes the truths that impact me are not all about my negative patterns and blind spots. But some times I get reflected just how some of the complements can also be so shocking. 01:10:22 johanna lieberman: This is so helpful with communication all around. And it builds the relationship and is so empowering. 01:11:24 Dawn: I appreciate the openness and curiosity to shine light and then collaborate on the unfolding 01:12:10 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Can you pre-frame all of that when you set the container? ie….I might notice something during the session do I have your consent to call out what I am seeing or feeling? 01:15:54 Victoria Cali: what else could we call it... the client's inner wisdom 01:17:33 Marla Bollak: Replying to "what else could we c..." i basically say, this is my perception, or opinion. what do you (client) think? 01:17:53 Marla Bollak: Replying to "what else could we c..." or feel? 01:18:28 Victoria Cali: Replying to "what else could we c..." thank you for bringing this to the group, it was a question to ask about in my notes too 01:19:08 Marla Bollak: Replying to "what else could we c..." yw 01:21:08 Kavita Rani Arora: Powerful question! 01:24:43 Juniper | Alchemessence: I worry when I share an anecdote, I might be projecting my own experience onto a client. It’s something I shy away from because I want to make sure I’m giving their experience space. 01:24:52 Dawn: Reacted to "or feel?" with 💗 01:25:09 Jaya Chelani: Reacted to "I worry when I share..." with ❤️ 01:25:57 Jaya Chelani: Replying to "I worry when I share..." I also shy away from It now after a client once told me that she was not there to hear my stories :) 01:28:39 Marla Bollak: Replying to "I worry when I share..." @Jaya Chelani that’s awful. i share stories all the time, always to help them; never got that response. not sure what i would do if i did… 01:32:02 Danielle: Reacted to "Beautifully said Dan..." with ❤️ 01:32:24 Juniper | Alchemessence: Reacted to "I also shy away from..." with 😮 01:35:55 Marla Bollak: the client always gets to decide what resonates and wha does not 01:36:12 Jaya Chelani: Reacted to "the client always ge..." with 👍 01:42:47 Maria Chowdhury: Thank you everyone! Have a beautiful day. 01:42:59 johanna lieberman: Thank you! 01:43:01 Dawn: Thank you!