00:07:24 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): o Taking action or following through on the inner and outer tasks you have committed to 00:10:39 Dewi Maile Lim✨@alohadev✨: Love that nuance of helping our clients BECOME more accountable. 00:12:28 Jessica Walker: Hi there….when I click on the Accountability resource links on the website, I’m being taken to the Self Sabotage documents. Is anyone else experiencing this? Thank you! 00:12:51 Jennifer Malamas: Yes, I am too @Jessica Walker; I emailed Caitlin about it 00:12:58 Mika: Reacted to "Hi there….when I cli..." with 👍 00:13:12 Amy G: Reacted to "Hi there….when I cli..." with 👍 00:13:38 Jennifer: Thank you! 00:13:40 Mika: Replying to "Hi there….when I cli..." I have emailed Caitlin about it just before the class. 00:13:49 Jennifer: ☺️Going slower is not a failure 00:13:52 Jessica Walker: Reacted to "Yes, I am too @Jessi..." with ❤️ 00:16:23 Susan Hagan: Great river metaphor. It would be disempowering, anyway, to carry another across! 00:21:22 Susan: Replying to "Hi there….when I cli..." Thanks, I noticed this too. 00:21:30 Kristin Jensen: Neurodivergency presents additional obstacles to accountability and consistency. Particularly with those dealing with demand avoidance. 00:22:04 Susan Hagan: Yes! 00:22:14 Jessica Walker: Reacted to "Neurodivergency pres..." with ❤️ 00:22:34 Maria Chowdhury: Personal responsibility 00:22:53 Nisha Mody (she/her): integrity 00:23:02 Maria Chowdhury: Reacted to "integrity" with 🙏🏼 00:23:22 Kristin Jensen: Self-encouragement to take action 00:23:32 Jessica Walker: Self confidence 00:23:37 jodigolda: I do it because I say so 00:23:47 Brie Laridon: Its my own choice and opportunity 00:23:59 Susan Hagan: Self-authority. 00:25:17 Danielle: Reacted to "Neurodivergency pres…" with ❤️ 00:27:10 Infinity Nguyen: Yes 00:28:19 Maria Chowdhury: What was that called again? …. “When you push against what is being proposed?” 00:28:34 Infinity Nguyen: Persistent Demand Avoidance 00:28:43 Maria Chowdhury: Reacted to "Persistent Demand Av..." with 🙏🏼 00:28:43 Kristin Jensen: Replying to "What was that called..." It’s called Pathological Demand Avoidance or Persistent Drive for Autonomy (PDA) 00:30:27 Maria Chowdhury: Replying to "What was that called..." 🙏🏼 00:33:01 Jessica Walker: 4 00:33:15 Dewi Maile Lim✨@alohadev✨: 3 00:33:23 Nisha Mody (she/her): 3 00:33:34 Tanja Mateljan: 1-1 if to myself, 4-5 to other people 00:33:48 Dewi Maile Lim✨@alohadev✨: 4.5 00:33:50 Jessica Walker: Still a 4, lol 00:33:51 Nisha Mody (she/her): 4-5 for sure 00:33:58 Susan: 2.5 self, 5 with accountability to others 00:34:37 Jennifer: for me it has a lot to do w timeframe 00:35:04 Susan Hagan: 2 on my own, 4 or 5 with others. I've identified as an Obliger, for sure, on Gretchen Rubin's 4 Tendencies (Obliger, Upholder, Rebel, or.... I forget the 4th!) 00:36:01 Jessica Walker: The running understanding in my family was “clear up and make things nice for the next person who wants to use this item/space” 00:36:57 Tanja Mateljan: it was always framed as something I have to do, a duty, a chore, no joy, play or purpose or even me inside it, felt lifeless and under pressure 00:37:28 Kristin Jensen: It felt like when I did well, my mom felt better about herself 00:37:47 Infinity Nguyen: Motivation was fear of failure, not wanting me to fail, but never about my own joy or fulfillment 00:38:21 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Always the Rebe growing upl.....always on my own time unless there were direct consequences which there rarely was….as an adult....depends on how important something is …...my internal motivation kicked in as a need to succeed as an adult... 00:38:41 Susan Hagan: I remember resenting the weekly Clean Room inspections from my Mom and shoving stuff randomly under the bed and into the closet. Then would have to pull the mess out again later to find stuff. Yeah, her desire for tidiness felt more important to her, than exploring my experience. 00:38:43 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): I am willing to be accountable, even if it’s uncomfortable, when….. 00:39:33 Tanja Mateljan: When I know WHY! and its connected to a bigger purpose something bigger than me, a vision that's fulfilling and sparks joy 00:39:50 Jessica Walker: When.....I’m part of a larger “picture” and a community that wants to accomplish a big task. 00:39:58 Dewi Maile Lim✨@alohadev✨: This was awesome, I have another appointment. Thank you Joanna ❤️ 00:40:06 Brie Laridon: When I can be motivated by the future goal, vision, picturing that reality 00:40:18 Infinity Nguyen: I care about the result, it feels aligned with who I want to be in the world, and I trust that the person holding me accountable sees my wholeness 00:40:45 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "I care about the res..." with 💜 00:40:46 Danielle: Reacted to "I care about the res…" with ❤️ 00:40:52 Tanja Mateljan: Reacted to "I care about the res..." with ❤️ 00:40:56 Amy G: Reacted to "I care about the res..." with ❤️ 00:41:12 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "When.....I’m part of..." with ❤️ 00:41:46 Mika: Reacted to "I care about the res..." with ❤️ 00:42:37 Juniper | Alchemessence: Ah I can relate Jen 00:43:43 Jennifer: Reacted to "Ah I can relate Jen" with ❤️ 00:44:19 Tanja Mateljan: id like to share but can't find hand gesture :) 00:47:07 Dawn U.: Replying to "id like to share but..." See the reaction button at the bottom of the zoom window, raise hand is below the emoji’s 00:47:07 Jennifer: Yea realizing my deepest accountability has to do w connection to spirit and personal development~ 00:47:10 Susan Hagan: Replying to "id like to share but..." For me, I have to click the "...More" tab at the bottom, from there pick "Reactions," and from there click, "Raise hand." 00:47:51 Dawn U.: Reacted to "For me, I have to cl..." with 😄 00:48:13 Mika: And it's so easy to forget that it is/was our decision/choice to do things for them - children, etc. - especially when things go sideways, lol 00:48:14 Tanja Mateljan: Replying to "id like to share but..." I don't have this on mine 🙁 I'm trying to find it but can't see it anywhere... 🙁 00:49:43 Juniper | Alchemessence: Yes - I’ve had that experience too. Such a good point 00:49:58 Katie Vason: Reacted to "Yes - I’ve had that ..." with 💜 01:01:40 jodigolda: I like that you said, “accountable to yourself" 01:02:23 Kristin Jensen: Reacted to "I like that you said..." with ❤️ 01:07:43 Amy G: Really connected with how you said 'coming out of isolation' with regards to connecting with Accountability Victoria. Powerful. 01:07:43 Tanja Mateljan: Thank you Victoria - such a poignant point 01:08:12 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "Thank you Victoria -..." with 💜 01:08:25 Nisha Mody (she/her): I also see a discernment for being accountable to take action and being accountable if you caused harm. I see the latter talked about more in the coaching industry 01:08:26 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "Really connected wit..." with 💜 01:08:45 Nisha Mody (she/her): Replying to "I also see a discern..." There’s definitely overlap 01:17:46 Danielle: That reminds me of “body doubling” (a strategy for people with ADHD) 01:20:03 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "That reminds me of “..." with 💜 01:23:35 Jennifer: I resonate so much w that Bruce. 01:24:32 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "I resonate so much w..." with 💜 01:26:40 Bruce | artichokedove.com: I need an accountability plan to create the accountability plan 🙂 01:26:59 jodigolda: Reacted to "I need an accountabi..." with 😹 01:27:01 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "I need an accountabi..." with 😜 01:27:02 Susan: A get it done session