00:09:17 Jennifer: Ive been more attuned. . And even though I felt the energetics before~ I am not taking them for granted 00:12:18 Jessica Dawson: Thanks Bruce, such a good topic. Appreciate you bringing this up 00:13:53 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "Thanks Bruce, such a..." with ❤️ 00:20:58 jodigolda: Can you say that again 00:21:50 Katherine: which they can take back to their families! 00:29:25 jodigolda: I have to do it well (perfect) to get love 00:29:59 Brie: Jekkyll hyde traits, going to yell at me, get in trouble 00:30:43 Katherine: If I show you my true self you’ll leave 00:31:56 Mika: If I am not in agreement with your suggestion, it becomes your way or high way (no longer a suggestion, it is just the way it is), no room for my input to start with. 00:32:02 Susan Hagan: With teachers-- being and feeling misunderstood. 00:32:08 Agnes: power over, deciding what I am / what I am capable of 00:32:14 Jennifer: You know what’s best~ I don’t 00:32:15 Nisha Mody (she/her): Sometimes I just jump right in to things because I feel like I need to get things done right away or overexplain instead of taking time to settle and listen 00:32:41 Kacey Cardin, PCC: I start out strong, get praised for being a “good student” or standout, then feel pressure or fear I can’t maintain that level of performance, so I sabotage in some way or disappear. 00:32:52 Brie: Siblings, your dreams aren't practical, you're woo woo, flaky 00:33:11 Katherine: acting like I know / understand everything instead of realizing that a teacher student relationship is about learning (rather than showing off) 00:34:09 Jen Medrick: Teachers - reverse projection, a view of who I am that comes from who they want me to be or who they don't want me to be instead of actually seeing who I am and leveling the playing field. 00:34:12 Victoria Cali: You're not really listening to me.... 00:35:01 Katherine: can you say that last Q again? 00:35:54 Jessica Dawson: Replying to "Teachers - reverse p..." Ohhh, I can really relate to this one 00:46:35 Susan Hagan: Expecting hidden/covert judgement from client... from my Mom, but also pretty universal perhaps, in human experience! 00:46:47 Maria Chowdhury: That I need a certain number of clients or group participants for me to be popular which is also high school baggage. 00:46:49 Katherine: “My role is to fix things.” “working like a dog is how you prove your worth” 00:47:01 Juniper | Alchemessence: Being the responsible and perfect one, and then taking on too much responsibility and pressure to be perfect with clients 00:48:18 Sue Begent: Im fine if they are happy. But start to feel stressed if they express dissatisfaction. “I’m not good enough”. I have work to keep healthy boundaries and focus on not giving it more meaning than is appropriate 00:48:31 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "Being the responsibl..." with 👍 00:48:38 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "Im fine if they are ..." with 👍🏻 00:48:45 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "Im fine if they are ..." with 👍 00:48:46 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "Being the responsibl..." with 🙏 00:48:52 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "“My role is to fix t..." with 👍 00:49:04 Susan Engel: So many negative emotions can be hooks for me from the past. It takes continual awareness of my self talk that falls back on issues of abandonment and betrayal and rejection when I have done my best. 00:49:12 Susan Hagan: I relate to a lot of these! 00:49:35 Brie: Fear of offending the client due to emotional repercussions, past bullied, yelled at trapped feelings 00:50:33 Sue Begent: I have to be careful that a client pushing back doesn’t result in me overriding my coaching instincts 00:52:22 Amy G: Thank you for the share Jenn, I can relate! When I'm concerned, checking if it's coming from an aligned place. 00:53:17 Jen Medrick: I think that I bring a commitment to really holding my clients with excitement and encouragement, to listening to what they want and love because I didn't get that fully myself. I'd like to believe this is in service but wondering if there are pieces of this that need deeper exploration. 00:54:03 Mika: Reacted to "Im fine if they are ..." with 👍 00:54:04 Agnes: I have to make sure to not slip into the cross-section between "Mother Teresa" and Superwoman"...or sliding to the other extreme of being kind of cold and distant based on the assumption that they`d think I`m nosy or non of my biz... 00:54:31 Katherine: Reacted to "I have to make sure ..." with 👍🏼 00:54:36 Amy G: Reacted to "I have to make sure ..." with 💜 00:54:40 Amy G: Reacted to "I think that I bring..." with 💜 00:54:58 Katherine: Reacted to "I have to be careful..." with 👍🏼 00:55:07 Katherine: Reacted to "Fear of offending th..." with ❤️ 00:55:21 Kacey Cardin, PCC: I’m currently in a pattern of feeling absolutely exhausted and like I don’t have enough to give, so I’m hoping no one “needs” me, but then I’ll be devastated if everyone leaves me (which becomes more likely when they feel neglected). 00:55:28 Maria Chowdhury: With my team 00:56:11 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "I think that I bring..." with 💜 00:58:24 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "“My role is to fix t..." with 👍🏼 00:58:38 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Being the responsibl..." with 👍🏼 00:59:00 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Im fine if they are ..." with 👍🏼 00:59:15 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "So many negative emo..." with 👍🏼 00:59:40 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "I think that I bring..." with 👍🏼 01:01:18 Juniper | Alchemessence: Reacted to "I’m currently in a p..." with ❤️ 01:02:37 Victoria Cali: normalize it 01:02:38 Mika: normalizing 01:02:42 Susan Engel: acknowledging 01:02:50 Mika: honouring what is 01:02:56 Jessica Walker: Asking for clarity 01:02:56 Amy G: getting consent before proceeding 01:02:58 Maria Chowdhury: Asking if you are getting it right 01:03:02 Jen Medrick: You redirected their attention back toward their own awareness to explore what might be happening. 01:03:25 Maria Chowdhury: What other relationship does this remind you of 01:03:31 Victoria Cali: deeper inquiry 01:10:16 Victoria Cali: what does "ideal" mean.... 01:14:30 Lara Wilde: Reacted to "what does "ideal" me..." with ❤️ 01:20:06 Jennifer: Im tearing up too! 01:21:41 Maria Chowdhury: That was a powerful share about leadership and about ceremony. 01:21:51 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "That was a powerful ..." with ❤️ 01:23:31 Victoria Cali: modeling imperfection and vulnerability as a catalyst for change ❤️ 01:26:01 Sue Begent: Yes. I am struck by the perfection - not only of how owning your mistake created healing in the. Moment and has been so valuable for so many coaching classes like ours! 01:26:08 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "modeling imperfectio..." with ❤️ 01:26:52 Jennifer: Well said! 01:28:20 Maria Chowdhury: It feels like archetypal energy 01:28:29 Danielle: I’ve heard Harriet Lerner share that chronic non-apologizers “walk on a tightrope of defensiveness above a huge canyon of low self-esteem.” That gave me much more compassion about the lack of apologies from my parents, and has also ignited more curiosity in me about what belief might keep me from clearly owning something when I’ve been in the wrong. 01:28:48 Katherine: Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with ❤️ 01:29:16 Marla Bollak: Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with ❤️ 01:31:43 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with ❤️ 01:31:45 Victoria Cali: ah... ideal is imperfect and vulnerable and works alchemically with how the client is showing up 01:31:59 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "ah... ideal is imper..." with ❤️ 01:32:02 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "ah... ideal is imper..." with ❤️ 01:32:09 Katherine: Reacted to "ah... ideal is imper..." with ❤️ 01:32:44 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with 💜 01:32:49 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "ah... ideal is imper..." with 💜 01:33:03 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Yes. I am struck by ..." with 👍🏼 01:33:04 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with ❤️ 01:33:12 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "It feels like archet..." with 💕 01:33:46 Amy G: Reacted to "I’ve heard Harriet L..." with 💜 01:34:15 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "ah... ideal is imper..." I love this, Victoria! 01:34:24 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "ah... ideal is imper..." with ❤️ 01:34:44 Victoria Cali: Replying to "ah... ideal is imper..." ❤️ 01:38:09 Jessica Walker: Trusting that our own vulnerability and lack of perfection in from of our clients/friends/family actually goes further to strengthening bonds of love and trust 01:38:29 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Trusting that our ow..." with 💜 01:38:29 Katherine: Reacted to "Trusting that our ow..." with ❤️ 01:38:35 Nisha Mody (she/her): I think the connection between our own awareness, client’s awareness, and how it impacts BOTH of our worlds is so resonnt 01:38:48 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "Trusting that our ow..." with 💜 01:38:50 Amy G: Reacted to "Trusting that our ow..." with 💜 01:38:59 Amy G: Reacted to "I think the connecti..." with 💜 01:39:07 Rosa Zubizarreta: Love your client and yourself as best you can in every moment… 01:39:10 Sue Begent: Owning our own - my own vulnerability and lack of perfection for so many reasons and the power it has to heal 01:39:38 Rosa Zubizarreta: Honoring imperfection as an opportunity for acknowledgment and repair… 01:40:11 Danielle: Reacted to "Honoring imperfectio..." with ❤️ 01:40:28 Susan Engel: In order to bring sacred space to my client I must address my physical container as ell as my spiritual/emotional baggage and focus on the energy of the archetype that is healing for the present moment 01:42:21 Brie: Take care of ourselves, know that projections are normal and opportunities for growth, clear the field for present loving energy 01:43:08 jodigolda: Humans are messy, and that’s ok ~ it matters more how we clean things up! 01:43:12 Danielle: Reacted to "Humans are messy, an..." with ❤️ 01:43:18 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "Humans are messy, an..." with ❤️ 01:43:20 Danielle: Reacted to "Take care of ourselv..." with ❤️ 01:43:23 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "Humans are messy, an..." with ❤️ 01:43:34 Danielle: Reacted to "In order to bring sa..." with ❤️ 01:46:40 Rosa Zubizarreta: Love what you are saying, Amy! 01:46:59 Danielle: So good, Amy. Loving every part of us and our clients, not exiling the (probably young) parts that are projecting. 01:47:30 Amy G: Reacted to "Love what you are sa..." with ❤️ 01:47:35 Amy G: Reacted to "So good, Amy. Loving..." with ❤️ 01:47:39 Katie Vason: Reacted to "Love what you are sa..." with ❤️ 01:47:43 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "So good, Amy. Loving..." with ❤️ 01:47:46 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Take care of ourselv..." with 💜 01:47:51 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "Humans are messy, an..." with 💜 01:48:40 Susan Hagan: The idea of bringing in the ideal qualities and energetic template of a given relational role (parent/sibling/teacher), with fluidity (rather than taking on any inherent limitations of that role), is amazing. Along with recognizing that "ideal" includes owning our inevitable fallibility. 01:49:02 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "The idea of bringing..." with 🌻 01:49:35 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "The idea of bringing..." with ❤️ 01:49:41 Amy G: Reacted to "The idea of bringing..." with ❤️ 01:50:44 Danielle: Reacted to "The idea of bringing..." with ❤️ 01:53:46 Jessica Dawson: I didn't share this earlier (because of the sibling thing!) but I had an experience with a client in the first year of coaching, where we were both projecting mother onto each other. By the time we got to our last session, there was a huge surge of energy talking about action steps and big forward movement because she wanted to please me and to have done a good job for me, and I absolutely didn't see it because I was so invested in her getting results from her investment (so I could feel okay). Things totally fell apart after that (no contact on her part, probably due to shame on not following through, even though I made it okay via email) and it took me ages to figure out what had gone on. At the time I had no idea this dynamic could come up, but it made so much sense when I saw it. Unfortunately that relationship went no further, but it was such a great learning curve. 01:56:00 Amy G: Reacted to "I didn't share this ..." with 💜 01:59:20 Danielle: Reacted to "I didn't share this ..." with 💜 02:02:10 jodigolda: LOVE 02:02:39 Amy G: Deep care and compassion 02:16:37 Sue Begent: Very helpful - thanks for sharing Joanna 02:16:42 Lara Wilde: Thank you for sharing Jessica. That sounds so much like an experience I had before Sacred Depths. It was so painful but I learned so much from it. 02:16:49 Amy G: Thank you so much for sharing Joanna ❤️ 02:16:58 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "Thank you for sharin..." with 💜 02:19:39 Maria Chowdhury: I really appreciate when you share about the challenges you face in groups and how you navigate them with love for your self and the participants. 02:20:03 Jennifer Malamas: Thank you! 02:20:08 Sue Begent: Great session`thank you!