00:04:39 Katherine: I’m just getting in. Will you share the writing prompt? 00:06:33 Mika: It quickly became a list of imperfections... 00:07:10 Susan Hagan: For me, it felt really grounding. To identify different strands of the swirl. 00:09:53 Susan Hagan: Yes! 00:10:31 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "Yes!" with 💜 00:12:26 Jennifer: 😬 00:13:44 Nisha Mody (she/her): 7 00:13:45 Katherine: 8 00:13:46 Jen Medrick: 5 00:13:46 Sheila Wolff: 8 00:13:46 Sue Begent: 7 00:13:48 Susan Larkin: 7-8 00:13:48 Katie Vason: 9- working on this.. 00:13:49 Jennifer Jones: 8 00:13:53 Rosa Zubizarreta: 8/9 00:13:55 Jennifer: Depends what part of life we are talking about … 9.9 😂 00:13:57 Mika: 9.5 00:14:08 Susan Hagan: 6-7 00:14:36 Jennifer: 9 in work 00:14:38 Rosa Zubizarreta: Probably everything except housework! 00:14:47 Sue Begent: Being visible 00:14:47 Katherine: Work, parenting 00:14:50 Mika: Work + education for sure 00:14:53 Juniper | Alchemessence: Exercise and fitness routines 00:15:00 Danielle: Writing 00:15:07 Jen Medrick: Creating my website - I should KNOW exactly what I do and how it works, finally and completely. 00:15:11 Mika: Reacted to "Writing" with ❤️ 00:15:34 Katie Vason: marketing in business (so I don’t post much), social media, space, some relationships 00:16:09 Jen Medrick: Invites me to be excellent and clear. But also can mean I don't move forward, because I can't see how to make it perfect. 00:16:11 Sue Begent: Helpful: Quality 00:16:28 Sheila Wolff: it's helpful that I care deeply about things 00:16:29 Rosa Zubizarreta: It has made me into a really good writer… and, it can make it hard for me to stay in balance, by taking too much time with stuff 00:16:35 Katie Vason: helpful: critical thinking, quality of work unhelpful: controlling and exhausting 00:16:37 Sue Begent: Unhelpful: negative self talk, inhibiting, slowing , avoiding 00:16:39 Susan Larkin: Helpful: it pushes me to do more and better work Unhelpful: I criticize myself and feel bad about myself most of the time. 00:16:41 Victoria Cali: Helpful: feeling into what feels right, exercise intuition.... 00:16:47 Jennifer: Helpful~ striving to be and do better in the greatest ways. Unhelpful ~ keeps me from serving more ppl.. or forward movement ~ although it also helps me just sit w something and really go deeper. 00:16:52 Mika: It has helped me to accomplish things at much higher levels than I personally could envision. It prevents me from taking the risk as afraid to fail = not meeting my own personal standards. 00:17:10 Susan Hagan: Helpful: clarity Unhelpful: eats away at my energy 00:20:29 Susan Larkin: Reacted to "It has helped me to ..." with ❤️ 00:22:07 Mika: Reacted to "Helpful: it pushes m..." with ❤️ 00:25:39 Maria Chowdhury: Perfectionism will save me from: wasting my time, repeating the same mistakes and being mediocre 00:27:19 Susan Larkin: Replying to "Perfectionism will s..." Ooh being mediocre- I feel that! 00:31:11 Jen Medrick: OOOOH, that one!! 00:31:15 Katherine: Hmmm I don’t relate to that at all 🙃 00:38:13 Susan Hagan: Perfectionism is feeling like a smokescreen, a form of resistance, intended to deliberately KEEP us out of the middle ground where real, unfamiliar (scary) change can happen, 00:38:21 Brie Laridon: Advertising social media can play a role in the perfectionist standards, it alters the reality of what people see 00:38:26 Jessica Dawson: It seems exhausting. That cycle 00:39:28 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "Perfectionism is fee..." with 💜 00:42:07 Jen Medrick: Reacted to "Perfectionism is fee..." with 💜 00:42:38 Katherine: I think there’s also such an aspect of the past in perfectionism. Because perfectionism doesn’t allow for growth. So essentially anything I would strive for I actually should have just been born with and it should have been accomplished yesterday. ie its all impossible 00:43:55 Danielle: Replying to "I think there’s also..." Yes, it seems very identity-focused. I AM or AM NOT this, rather than having a growth mindset 00:43:59 Danielle: Reacted to "I think there’s also..." with 👍 00:44:05 Juniper | Alchemessence: Reacted to "I think there’s also..." with 👍 00:44:13 Sheila Wolff: Reacted to "I think there’s also..." with 👍 00:44:32 Jessica Dawson: I'm thinking that perfectionism doesn't allow us to see the bigger picture of who we are and what IS going right 00:44:54 Katherine: Replying to "I think there’s also..." totally 00:45:39 Amy G: Reacted to "I'm thinking that pe..." with 💜 00:45:59 Juniper | Alchemessence: Reacted to "I'm thinking that pe..." with 👍 00:46:01 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "I think there’s also..." Oh I can so relate… the voice of “it should have been accomplished yesterday”, when a new goal arises… 00:48:28 Kristin Jensen: Reacted to "I think there’s also..." with 👍 00:50:05 Danielle: Reacted to "I'm thinking that pe..." with 💜 00:53:53 Katie Vason: Reacted to "I'm thinking that pe..." with 💜 00:56:04 Rosa Zubizarreta: Really good question... 01:03:15 Sue Begent: I am so sorry I have to leave. I will catch the rest on the replay - great session Joanna - thanks! 01:04:09 Mika: The personally healthy dose of perfectionism and empowering use of it. 01:04:35 Susan Hagan: We can have motivation from the joy and satisfaction of excellence, rather than default goading. 01:07:48 Danielle: Reacted to "We can have motivati..." with ❤️ 01:11:38 Jessica Dawson: It sounds like a form of protest to unrealistic expectations 01:16:12 Nisha Mody (she/her): I love this “even though, nevertheless”, and I also wonder if this makes people settle or not make a change? I guess this can depend on their goals and the context. 01:17:21 Jennifer Rose Gens: Definitely reminds me of the Victim Archetype 01:17:55 Jessica Dawson: I'm hearing that it helps us to see the bigger picture 01:18:02 Nisha Mody (she/her): Thank you! so helpful 01:18:14 jodigolda: I am so taking on this practice for myself, tonight! 01:18:18 Sheila Wolff: The "even though/nevertheless" statements are often part of the process of EFT/tapping too 01:18:23 Susan Larkin: Reacted to "The "even though/nev..." with ❤️ 01:18:26 Danielle: Reacted to "The "even though/nev..." with ❤️ 01:18:36 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "The "even though/nev..." with ❤️ 01:18:40 Susan Larkin: Replying to "I am so taking on th..." Me too! 01:22:43 Mika: Reacted to "The "even though/nev..." with ❤️ 01:23:44 jodigolda: Reacted to "Me too!" with ❤️ 01:26:33 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Reacted to "The "even though/nev..." with ❤️ 01:27:22 jodigolda: black & white thinking! 01:27:33 Rosa Zubizarreta: This sounds really basic, but that we’re not trying to get RID of the perfectionist in us, but rather, CHANGING OUR RELATIONSHIP to the perfectionist in us! 01:27:44 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "This sounds really b..." with ❤️ 01:27:48 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "black & white thinki..." with ❤️ 01:27:52 Amy G: Reacted to "This sounds really b..." with ❤️ 01:27:56 Amy G: Reacted to "black & white thinki..." with ❤️ 01:27:57 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "This sounds really b..." with ❤️ 01:28:01 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "This sounds really b..." with ❤️ 01:28:07 Susan Larkin: I just love this exercise- Even though Nevertheless, I can’t wait to incorporate it into my practice! And do it myself! 01:28:16 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "I just love this exe..." with 💜 01:28:22 Susan Hagan: Replying to "I just love this exe..." Me, too! 01:28:24 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "black & white thinki..." with 💜 01:28:41 Katie Vason: how much perfectionism is showing up in my own activism— especially the the binary thinking- and how much it is showing up collectively 01:28:48 Kristin Jensen: One of the big takeaways I’m having is that it’s really not my fault that I struggle with perfectionism, and I can let myself off the hook a lot - so much is systemic programming and messaging from a multitude of sources, and at the time I internalized all these messages, I was too young to know any better. It is so wonderful to know of all these ways to work with it and diffuse its impact! 01:29:00 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "how much perfectioni..." with ❤️ 01:29:01 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with 💕 01:29:04 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with ❤️ 01:29:06 Amy G: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with ❤️ 01:29:10 Jessica Dawson: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with ❤️ 01:29:11 Rosa Zubizarreta: Reacted to "how much perfectioni..." with 💜 01:29:12 Amy G: Reacted to "how much perfectioni..." with ❤️ 01:29:18 Sheila Wolff: Reacted to "This sounds really b..." with ❤️ 01:29:23 Danielle: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with ❤️ 01:29:33 Sheila Wolff: Reacted to "One of the big takea..." with ❤️ 01:29:46 Rosa Zubizarreta: Replying to "One of the big takea..." Love this, Kristin! 01:29:59 Kristin Jensen: Reacted to "Love this, Kristin!" with ❤️ 01:30:04 Susan Larkin: It is normal that the middle feels uncomfortable. I’ve been working on this, but when I am in the middle it feels uncomfortable and brings up fear of failure even though I know it is where I want to be. 01:31:26 Amy G: Reacted to "It is normal that th..." with ❤️ 01:31:31 Sheila Wolff: Reacted to "It is normal that th..." with ❤️ 01:32:02 Jennifer Rose Gens: Just looked up the definition of lazy LOL 01:32:22 Susan Larkin: I have to go to another meeting, terrific session! 01:34:11 Susan Hagan: Reacted to "It is normal that th..." with ❤️