00:09:17 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): https://pages.applieddepthinstitute.com/ictgp2023 00:11:04 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): Bring a Friend: https://pages.applieddepthinstitute.com/baftgp2023 00:37:10 jodigolda: Is it always fear hiding beneath resistance? 00:38:06 Katherine: You said resistance shows us how we react to .... 00:39:03 Amy G: I'm also curious about the levels of awareness and how conscious resistance is... mostly unconscious? 00:40:19 Marla Bollak: how do you tell the difference between a bonafide reasonable reason and one that is resistance? 00:44:33 Victoria Cali: and layers of resistance, like you work with one that softens and then another comes in from the periphery to take its place.... ? 00:45:21 Susan: Overwhelm; beating myself up; 00:45:34 Brie: Overwhelm procrastination 00:45:36 Nisha Mody (she/her): Not taking steps towards something I really want 00:45:42 Agnes Udoh: procrastination, overwhelm, running the same circles a million times and getting back to point zero 00:45:48 jodigolda: Not prioritizing attending the community biz calls - I mean I am traveling, but I have also been scheduling other things over those times. 00:45:52 Kristin Jensen: Overwhelm Procrastination Beating self up Don’t do action steps Get confused 00:45:52 Amy G: avoidance, procrastination, feeling like it's too much 00:45:53 Victoria Cali: mantra: Not enough time 00:46:18 Mika: Taking on too much = not enough time 00:46:23 Susan: Taking on too much? Can that be one? 00:46:28 jodigolda: Reacted to "mantra: Not enough t..." with ❤️ 00:47:33 Susan: Reacted to "Taking on too much? ..." with ❤️ 00:47:39 Susan: Reacted to "mantra: Not enough t..." with ❤️ 00:47:45 Susan: Reacted to "avoidance, procrasti..." with ❤️ 00:48:59 Marla Bollak: what do you do - or not - if you can’t get past the resistance? 00:49:26 Nisha Mody (she/her): This feels like such a relief! 00:49:30 Victoria Cali: Do we then switch to growing capacity in the system ? 00:50:34 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Working through the fear of working with the fear 00:53:26 Jennifer Malamas: Can you repeat the Q please? 00:53:36 Nisha Mody (she/her): When people tried to tell me my ex-husband was mistreating me and I didn’t want to hear it/convinced myself I could still be with him. 00:54:05 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): When was a time when you simply weren’t ready or willing to move past your own resistance? 00:54:11 Kristin Jensen: I gave up my dream of pursuing an opera career because the fear was so large around auditioning and putting myself out there, I didn’t believe I was good enough. I definitely judged myself for being a failure 00:54:20 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): What were the judgements, critcisms or beliefs you created about yourself because of your resistance? 00:54:22 Lara Wilde: Now that I can see resistance, I see it in myself all the time! 00:54:27 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "I gave up my dream o..." with ❤️ 00:54:35 Susan Hagan: Oh yes! I can see three areas in my life where I'm still developing readiness and willingness-- and then it's easy to jump to, "there must be something wrong with me." 00:54:41 Susan: Reacted to "I gave up my dream o..." with 💕 00:55:00 Susan: Replying to "I gave up my dream o..." Same I gave up acting in my mid-20’s … 00:55:49 Susan: My son in high school 00:55:55 Nisha Mody (she/her): Reacted to "Oh yes! I can see t..." with 💜 00:56:44 Susan Hagan: Trying to get two others in my family to spend time together and get along-- backfired. 00:57:06 Kristin Jensen: Replying to "I gave up my dream o..." ❤️ 00:57:11 Kristin Jensen: Reacted to "Same I gave up actin..." with ❤️ 00:58:14 Jennifer: Hahaha 00:58:18 Agnes Udoh: Sorry, have to jump off, hopefully will be back in about 45 mins. See you then. 00:58:49 Jennifer: Replying to "Hahaha" Laughing to “when the client’s resistance is the enemy”. Def have felt that 01:00:18 Joanna Lindenbaum (she/her): o When have you feared or judged you clients (or anyone else’s) resistance? What was the impact of that fear or judgment? o When have you gone into your own Resistance because of a client’s Resistance? 01:02:32 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Questioned my own abilities then dreading working with the client. 01:03:17 Marla Bollak: what do you do if you do feel judgement creep in? 01:03:17 Victoria Cali: Honor why the resistance may be there in the first place.... 01:03:31 Katie Vason: when a former client would continuously question the validity of coaching so much so, that I offered a refund because it would trigger my own confusion and fear …instead of actively looking at and holding space for the resistance itself… 01:04:04 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "when a former client..." with ❤️ 01:10:00 Susan Hagan: This feels like a substantial application of re-wiring our operating systems from fear to love, from unconsciousness to more consciousness. 01:10:26 Victoria Cali: Reacted to "This feels like a su..." with ❤️ 01:10:32 Kristin Jensen: Reacted to "This feels like a su..." with ❤️ 01:10:45 Amy G: Reacted to "This feels like a su..." with ❤️ 01:10:55 Katie Vason: Reacted to "This feels like a su..." with ❤️ 01:12:58 Katherine: it’s almost like method acting. when they are in a role you can’t communicate with “them" 01:16:14 Jennifer: I love this relationship share Joanna. I’ve been thinking about this modality w my own partnership and how it can be so helpful for couples 01:16:15 Bruce | artichokedove.com: Makes a huge difference when clients can see that this energy is only a part of them it that is trying to protect them. When they are not blended with it. Helps to reduce the shame that there is something wrong with them. 01:30:17 Dawn Urquhart: I’m back! 01:30:28 Susan Hagan: I'm here! My laptop camera has been unreliable. 01:30:46 Mika: I'm here as well ;) 01:31:20 Susan: I’m eating lunch so keeping camera off for the moment 01:31:22 Sharon Terzza: Im back and have lots of distractions so I’ll have the camera off most of the call. x 01:34:05 Victoria Cali: like a boundary that needs to be there... 01:35:12 Katherine: what are some examples of neuro atypical? 01:35:46 Kristin Jensen: Replying to "what are some exampl..." ADHD, Autism, Highly sensitive person 01:36:11 Mika: Replying to "what are some exampl..." Borderline Personality disorder is another 01:38:40 Kristin Jensen: Replying to "what are some exampl..." Epilepsy, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia 01:39:32 Maria Chowdhury: Blaming Circumstances? 01:40:45 Mika: Absolutely, lol 01:40:49 Kristin Jensen: Oh yeah 01:57:00 Mika: container-full of opportunity for personal growth 01:57:54 Katie Vason: these steps are so helpful in creating so much more room around resistance and being in relationship with a clients defensiveness /engaging with archetypal energy 02:10:56 Susan: Yes, I’ve had clients say they “just want to talk about it” 02:14:02 Jaya Chelani: i feel that her victimhood is serving her in some way and so she doesn't want to let go of it. May be that root cause needs to be uncovered 02:16:37 Jennifer: Replying to "i feel that her vict…" Yes. We ve talked very much about thatv 02:19:35 Marla Bollak: love this convo about lying. i’m working on some of these same questions… 02:19:48 Mika: There can always be more than one truth. 02:20:26 Marla Bollak: what was that podcast about the topic of lying? 02:21:05 Beth Fuller (she/her): Glennon Doyle, We Can Do Hard Things 02:21:17 Marla Bollak: Reacted to "Glennon Doyle, We Ca..." with ❤️ 02:21:21 Marla Bollak: Replying to "Glennon Doyle, We Ca..." thank you! 02:21:41 Beth Fuller (she/her): Reacted to "thank you!" with ❤️ 02:39:33 Maria Chowdhury: What do you call the person who wants to quit? 02:45:48 Katherine: In all of these descriptions I feel a bit defensive (like I know I have all of these) and my energy feels a little harsh. I noticed that a piece of me hears all of this as a way to call out a client for bad behavior rather than from a coach point of view of “hey we are in this together. I’m curious and loving around getting to the bottom of this so you can grow and be more authentic and free” 02:53:50 Jennifer: I have a q about “naming it” 03:02:59 Sharon Terzza: Great call very helpful with a particular client. who I have a call with now. See yuo next week 03:03:16 Victoria Cali: Ditto, thanks everyone ! 03:03:40 Katherine: we don’t have class next week do we?